(Closed) Romantic Gestures

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Kat_Kit2000:  AWWWW!!!! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

I am most lucky to have a man who loves romantic things, he likes to take me out on long walks at night, espeically when its snowing, make me dinner while I play a video game, he’ll dance and serenade me with a made up song at random times that makes me feel soo special! 

When I have a bad day he’ll come over and watch anything I want and snuggle up with me, and its this that means the most because he’ll do it even if he’s tired from work. I tear up all the time due to how much I love him and knowing how much he loves me. I’m such a sap! Look at how long my post was! :/

 

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 1992

@Kat_Kit2000:  

First, don’t even bother trying to drop hints about wanting ‘romantic gestures’. Whether it’s acceptable or politically correct or not, men’s brains work differently than women’s. Plus, “romantic” means different things to different people. Plus, although your girlfriend might be able to ‘sense’ that you are down and need an emotional pick-me-up, again, men are generally clueless when it comes to these types of ‘special powers’. I know that might sound harsh, but I think I am able to make this type of statement for a few reasons; one of which being that I have been married for 26 years, and dated for 5 years before that, all to the same man.

Frankly, most men’s brain operate on the ‘hunter-gatherer’ mode – once you are his, in his mind, there is no more need to ‘woo’ you. Yes, there are exceptions to this, however, I think it is safe to say that most men would agree with this assessment.

However, most women’s brains do not work in this way at all. We women want and need affirmation, words, and gestures that dramatically ‘prove’ that we are still #1 on his mind and priority list.

Instead of hinting at what you want, first, be sure to express your appreciation for the gestures he does make. Then, take the first step to demonstrate to him how you feel. Despite the fact that he wouldn’t admit to ‘needing’ these types of gestues, he will love receiving the attention, and you will be more attuned to wanting to please him, and your emotions will be fired up because of the time and planning you’ve put into whatever you’ve planned. So, the whole experience will be a win-win for both of you.

You also need to find a way to tap into the romantic parts of his brain (which, again, he won’t admit to having, and are somewhat latent – and need to be enhanced by you), and to trigger the kinds of responses you want.

Please feel free to drop by my website anytime to get more suggestions and ideas! We’re a growing community of people dedicated to improving communication and relationships @ http://lovesmstext.us.

~Tiffany

Post # 7
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1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Grr, I lost my whole post!  Let me try this again…

My SO is very sweet.  He’ll do nice things for me like make dinner, clean up, etc.  I find all those things very nice, but I really wanted him to get me flowers.  So I told him!  I made sure he knew I appreciated all the things he did for me, but I would love it if he surprised me with flowers some day.  The day I started my internship I came home to a lovely potted plant.  He knew flowers would die and I would be left with an ugly vase, so he got me a flowering plant that’s easy to care for instead (black thumb here).  Before he left for his internship he left me some other surprises, too!

My point is, sometimes you have to let him know that you would like a romantic gesture from him every once in a while.

I also do similar things for my SO.  I get him litte gifts, leave him letters, and just do little things to let him know how much I love him.  He loves it when I make him feel special, and he knows I love it when he makes me feel special.

Post # 8
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3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Romantic was this morning.

I love Little Debbie’s Swiss Cake Rolls. I like to put them in the freezer and eat them cold. and they can get kind of hard to find sometimes.

Anyway, SO works in a supermarket and is the Deli Manager, but is not one of the types to always be bringing home stuff (he works around food all day, you wouldnt want to be around food too) but this morning he sends me a text saying.

“My store is selling swiss cake rolls 2/$3. I am gonna pick you up a few boxes”.

IF THAT’S NOT LOVE, I DON’T KNOW WHAT IS!

Post # 11
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124 posts
Blushing bee

@Kat_Kit2000:  I feel you. My SO will do sweet things, but I usually have to say something and then he’ll do it once and never again. I said I love fresh flowers and I always want a fresh vase in the house and I  don’t mind getting them myself but they are so much nicer from my boyfriend. (My dad does this for my mom and I think it’s effin adorable). I even said nothing fancy the 8 dollar flowers from the grocery store are absolutely perfcect and not every day or even every week. I said I thought once a month fresh flowers would be nice. He said he thought that was reasonable and Of course sweetly he went and got some like the next day, pretty flowers. I had high hopes that i’d sweetly get flowers once a month.  That was in March or April, flower vase is currently sitting empty in the middle of the kitchen table.     

</3 haha

Post # 13
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383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well, this Valentine’s Day, SO asked me to come up to his college dorm.  He blindfolded me and sat me down at his itty-bitty coffee table and left the room.  When he came back, he took off my blindfold.  He had made my favorite pasta dish in the basement of his dorm building and brought it up three flights to me, set up paper candles (they can’t have candles in the dorms) on the table, rented a silly romantic comedy, and he gave me a shoulder massage while I ate.

I’m not a flowers-and-chocolate kinda girl, so I’m probably not the easiest lady to give romantic gestures to.  I seriously almost cried…  I was so touched by everything he’d put together with what little resources a college guy has!

Also, since he does go all-out every once in a while, it makes me appreciate the gestures even more.

One more little thing: we went to an amusement park on our vacation a few weeks ago.  We were walking through the midway towards a ride holding hands.  There was an older couple (maybe in their 80’s) holding hands in front of us.  I smiled to myself.  SO suddenly switched sides with me so he was standing behind the older man and I was behind the woman.  I know it doesn’t seem like a big deal, but the fact that he noticed made me all sorts of giggly and happy (:

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