(Closed) “Romantic” wedding vs “Modern” wedding

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Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

the second dress is much more sophisticated and whimsical. Personally I like it much more, but that’s just me.

There are so many ways to add color. You could work with a dressmaker to insert a panel of color, or be daring and on that second dress, have it professionally dyed in a pale blue wash on the train to just give it a hint of color at the ends. Or wear gorgeous saphire jewelry with your gown. Seriously, there are so many options that you have.

As far as the train getting dirty —- it’s just how it goes. Your dress is going to get dirty on your wedding day. the great thing is that only YOU will notice this. It happens to everyone that has an outdoor wedding.

I think inspiration boards are a great way to clarify your thoughts and ideas. Check out http://snippetandink.blogspot.com

She does the most beautiful and creative boards I’ve ever seen. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

ive seen the first dress in many magz and never cared much for it as it reminded me of a prom dress and seems "stiff"

i love the second one and i thing it would be great with color too. a blue ribbon swapped for the white one and blue dramatic modern jewelry and maybe even blue shoes! 

anyway go for your gut instinct. he’ll love you in whatever you choose. youll fit his image of a "bride" as soon as he sees you. it’s not like he’ll be confused. 🙂

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I agree with the previous postings…I’ve never cared for that first dress, although I’ve seen many brides in it. It reminds me of the 80s for some reason and I think it has the potential to look very dated in photos.

I think the second one is classic and very elegant. And I agree there are great ways to add a splash of blue to that dress. Even making the ribbon around the waist blue, or having a blue flower pin added somewhere on the front…wearing a blue ribbon wrapped through your hair, blue jewelry…of course blue shoes would be a must.  The touches of blue would have such a nice impact.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Here is what I’m doing — maybe it will give you some ideas!  I am wearing a soft Maggie Sottero dress in Diamond White, but I am wearing blue shoes and blue jewelry.  The blue I am using is called "pool"; it is a turquoise color.  My bridesmaids will be wearing the same color of blue. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008 - Ceremony in a historic church, tented lawn reception at a golf and country club

I personally prefer the second dress…the first one has had  lot of trouble in terms of bustling – scroll down this page, and see the examples – you’ll see what I mean – that triangle of colour turns into an awkward looking rectangle!

 

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

i vote for #2, and i think you could wear it for either your romantic wedding or a more modern one. i think you can work it either way!! 🙂

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Talking to the groom about things like the style of the wedding can be frustrating sometimes! I don’t think alot of guys picture things quite the way we do even if its their own wedding.

What really helped us was to make a list of the top  4-5 things that were important to us to have at the wedding in order of priority. Eg. 1.Personalized ceremony, 2.Location (outdoors or formal), 2.Food, 3.Music

I also agree with everyone on the second dress, its gorgeous and there are other ways to inject color. The stiff satin doesn’t appeal to me but have you tried it on? That said, I think this was Mrs Corn’s dress and she looked lovely in it.

It must be hard for you planning a wedding with your fiance being away. Once you decide on your venue though things will most certainly fall into place. Good luck!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Talking to the groom about things like the style of the wedding can be frustrating sometimes! I don’t think alot of guys picture things quite the way we do even if its their own wedding.

What really helped us was to make a list of the top  4-5 things that were important to us to have at the wedding in order of priority. Eg. 1.Personalized ceremony, 2.Location (outdoors or formal), 2.Food, 3.Music

I also agree with everyone on the second dress, its gorgeous and there are other ways to inject color. The stiff satin doesn’t appeal to me but have you tried it on? That said, I think this was Mrs Corn’s dress and she looked lovely in it.

It must be hard for you planning a wedding with your fiance being away. Once you decide on your venue though things will most certainly fall into place. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

The first gown always looks a little renaissance fair-ish to me.  The second is gorgeous, in a sort of turn-of-the-century way.  The problem with guys is that they don’t think about Grace Kelly the way we do – they mostly don’t understand the difference between romantic and modern styles.  You will probably have to put together a sort of collage of pictures for your Fiance to look at in order to show what you mean.  Its not actually bad to have someone looking out for the practical aspects of things though.  I love the look of outdoor weddings, but given sun, wind, and the whole mosquito West-Nile thing if you have your guests out into the evening… we are going with a lovely indoor venue with balconies for those guests who want some air.  It probably feels like your Fiance is being a bit of a wet blanket, but he’s just thinking like a guy.

And you know, my Fiance could care less about a lot of the details.  My sister advised me in every case to narrow it down to three of my top choices and then ask him, and that has been really great advice.  In a couple of cases he hated all three, and I had to backtrack a little, but in most cases he really has no opinion.  The tough part is figuring out what exactly they are going to care about!!!

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I also vote for #2. It’s gorgeous.

I tried on a dress with similar fullness to your #1 pic at Alfred Angelo (except it was all white) and I thought that it was really heavy. I don’t think I can last the whole night in it.

Post # 14
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Worker bee

I would show him a few inspiration boards (like the ones on http://www.stylemepretty.com) to explain the differences in style. I don’t think most guys would understand the romantic/modern difference just by looking at dresses 😉

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

This might be an obvious question, but have you tried both of the dresses on?  Most brides I know fell in love with something in a picture, but when they tried it on they ended up not liking it so much and going with a dress they never would have picked out in a mag.  Just a thought! 

Either way, I vote for dress #2 with blue shoes!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2007

As for helping your finance understand/feel the differences in wedding styles – I’d stop talking about the dress and start talking other details.  Pick out some style boards from Style Me Pretty and just ask him to tell you what he sees, what he likes, what he doesn’t like.  You’ll be able to translate what he says into a wedding vision much easier then trying to get him to say the right words – if that makes sense.

The more you two talk about your desires for a wedding – the style will create itself.  Then find a dress that works with that style.  You’ll be able to work most dresses into the style of your wedding that you two envision.

I’ll agree – I do love that second dress 🙂

Also – things like the venue might dictate a ‘style’ for the wedding.  Or at least narrow things down.  So may you want to work on those details before you acutally order your dress. 

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