(Closed) Room Block Price Issue – Should I Tell The Bride??

posted 9 years ago in Money
  • poll: Should I bring this up with the bride? (8/21 wedding)
    Yes, she might need to know this information : (19 votes)
    58 %
    It might not be a good idea, even if she doesn't know it's too late to do anything about it : (5 votes)
    15 %
    Absolutely not - it doesn't matter if she knows or not : (7 votes)
    21 %
    Not Sure : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Don’t necessarily assume your friend knows about this. I know that hotels will sometimes discount rates but not tell brides the discounts are available, hoping to get more money from guests. Can you approach your friend’s husband or one of the bridal party members, maybe, and then let them bring it up to your friend?

    Post # 4
    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I wouldn’t assume anything – I would just bring it up nicely to your friend that you found out there are cheaper rooms at the the hotel and thought she would want to know, etc!  It just may not have occurred to her to check around/negotiate.

    Post # 5
    2030 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Room blocks are rarely cheaper than the internet rates. It was nice enough of the bride to ensure that rooms were available, she is not responsible for the hotel’s price gouging policies. The room block I secured for my guests was $179 MORE than the internet price – and I DID negotiate hard. You are not obligated in any way to stay in the block. Just book the cheaper room and don’t mention it to the bride. Their contract is already signed so at this point there’s nothing she could do anyway.

    Post # 6
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    Don’t mention it to her. Book the cheaper room for yourself and let it go. Other budget conscious guests will do the same. You don’t know if it’s the hotel or the bride who is gouging you here, and honestly, I wouldn’t want to find out!

    Post # 7
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I second marigold.

    From my experience, blocks (room or flights) may be cheaper or the same rate but I have not heard that it is more expensive. The main purpose of a block is to make sure lodging is available for a certain number of ppl, nothing more.

    Another alternative is to share a room with other wedding guest(s). that should save some $.

    Post # 8
    81 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would bring it up nicely (and cautiously) with her, mostly because I think if you don’t tell her, you’re going to be stuck in a sticky situation:  you’ll feel like you’ve hidden something from her, and if she finds out, she’ll feel like you hid something from her.  Probably not the best situation for bride/bridesmaid bliss on the weekend of the wedding.

    There shouldn’t be a problem switching some of the higher-priced rooms for the more affordable ones within her block.  Then, you (and other budget-conscious guests) get to save some money, and she’d still get her free bridal room!

    Post # 9
    2561 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would book the cheaper room, it isn’t your responsibility to pay more for a room in order to get her a free room.

    Post # 10
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Well she’s your best friend, right? Do you think she would deliberately do something like this? I mean, i know some women can get crazy but if you think this sounds totally out of character for her then I would mention it. I would definitely want to know if I was in her position. 

    Good Luck! 

    Post # 11
    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I work for a hotel and I have to say that the room block rate is usually a bit better than the normal rates, and the guests are often booked into nicer rooms, but with the economy tanking many hotels have had to slash their rates to fill rooms.  If a bride contracted the group rate months out, there was no way for her or the hotel to know how bad things might get.  My hotel has been handling it by guaranteeing upgraded rooms and discounting things like parking charges, but it is still not an ideal situation because the family may still feel gouged and it makes people think negatively about the property.

    I would tell the bride to see if she can negotiate some perks for her guests if she is unable to bring the rate down.

    Post # 12
    45 posts
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Since you say your friend is super stressed, I wouldn’t bring it up to her.  She may have reserved the block for guest convenience (to make sure the hotel doesn’t fill up and that family members can get nice rooms) rather than trying to make sure everyone gets the lowest price.

    When we looked at hotel rooms, we ended up deciding not to reserve a hotel block at all, because (for the hotel that had by far the most reasonable rates overall) we’d have to guarantee a percentage of rooms and even the discounted rate would be more expensive than the online special rate for our guests.  But we are having a small wedding in an area with a lot of nearby hotels, so we figured there wasn’t much chance of the hotel filling up. 

    I don’t know if you should jump to the conclusion that your friend doesn’t care about saving people money — she may have figured that people will shop around for a good rate if they care about it, and that the block is just for people who are looking for the quickest, most convenient room option.  We tried to give people a lot of information on our website & invitation insert about shopping for the best room price online, but I think a lot of people in my family just went for the most convenient option anyway.

    Post # 13
    796 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    We had a lot of crazy issues with our room block – at first guests could only book rooms with one king bed (no two-double bed rooms were available), then it was the opposite, no kings available, then no one could book suites, then the hotel started a sale where rooms were $99 a night (at least $50 less than we had negotiated with them). If guests hadn’t mentioned it, I might have never known, and everyone would have had to sleep in a king bed room.

    However, how close is it to the wedding, or the cutoff date for room booking (typically a month before the wedding)? I had so many people contact my mom after the deadline (posted in the save the date, the invitation, and on the wedding web site) saying they couldn’t get a room. I was so tired of it and so mad that people hadn’t just done it earlier I let them fend for themselves.

    Post # 14
    473 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I’d go ahead and book the cheaper room.

    In my situation, I know that there is a cheaper rate online – but it is a non-refundable rate. The rate the hotel offered us includes breakfast, while the non-refundable rate does not.  I did negotiate with the hotel, and I am getting a free suite – but I get the suite regardless of how many rooms are booked.  I’ve told some guests about the cheaper rate, and those that go online will find out about it…. but if they book that way they won’t be part of my room block and may not be accounted for when I give my Out of Town bags.  (I know who some of them are, so they will get Out of Town bags no matter what).

    I would tell the bride that you didn’t book in her name because you found a better deal online… this way she can let the hotel know you are part of the party… just in case she is doing an Out of Town bag.


    Post # 15
    99 posts
    Worker bee

    Is your friend’s fiance super stressed?  Maybe you could just give him a heads up that he might want to give the hotel a call.  I wouldn’t bring it up with the bride or make a big deal of it.

    Post # 16
    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I think you should mention it to your friend just to ensure that nothing is going on that she is unaware of.  Like ES123, we had several issues with the room block, and had our guests not informed me, I never would have been able to remediate the issues.  Just do it carefully and be as sensitive as possible…Good luck!

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