Roommate has multiple people staying at house- would you care?

posted 1 year ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

amilly435 :  not gonna lie 4 more in 1 bathroom I be mad. More electricity water to!

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’d probably talk to him about it after they leave. I’d just tell him in the future, you’d like to know when/how many guests are coming. I wouldn’t be angry but I would be annoyed.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would be annoyed. Did he give a date that they would all be out? If not, I would start there and ask when they will be leaving. 

I would also take a look at your lease to see how long overnight guests are allowed to stay for.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Does it say anything in your lease about having overnight guests?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I’d be super annoyed, but I wouldn’t make too big of a deal about it. Just let the roommate know that in the future you need to know who is going to be staying over. (And you have every right to say you’re not ok with that many people staying for multiple nights),

Post # 7
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Honey bee

Well I think most people would be annoyed with three extra houseguests they were not previously told about. But are you so certain that he didn’t know about them either? And that sister didn’t just spring the three extra people on him at the last minute and then he felt stuck?

I guess the level of annoyance and or your response to it would depend on what you and your roommate previously agreed to. I know it sounds like a joke with the Big Bang Theory and roommate agreements but everyone who lives with a roommate should have come up with House Rules from day one. So what is the agreement that you and the roommates had come up with? Are house guests allowed and did you put a number limit on house guests or a day limit? And at this point how much longer will they be staying? If it’s just another night or two then I would put up with it and then after the fact have a house discussion about how to handle houseguests from here on out. It’s going to be more than a couple of nights then I would address it now and recommend they find a hotel room for the remainder of their stay.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

amilly435 :  not cool. When Darling Husband and i had a roomie, we had ground rules around guests. Had to notify us ahead of time, two days max, and no more than 1 guest at a time. We also had a 1 bathroom apt. 

That said, even though it was a rental, we were the lease holders (the roommate was just a legal occupant), so it was OUR apartment, not theirs. Is your roomie on the lease?

id bring it up to the roomie and have a discussion about expectations surrounding guests. If you’re the leaseholders, you can set the rules. If you’re all on the lease, then you should come to the rules together. And if you’re not happy with the outcome, you should consider moving out. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I’d have been pissed. This is probably why I never had any roommates other than significant others. :/ 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I agree with PP. Wait until after they leave, then mention it for next time. If your lease doesn’t specify, put a limit on it like no more than 2 people & only for 3 days, or whatever you want to agree to. If he does it again, report it to the landlord.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

You just gotta have rules set up. But in my experience having roommates and friends having roommates, there will ALWAYS  be a few things that a roommate will do that are VERY irritating. I’ve never lived with someone where I haven’t had a major issue with them that I had to simply deal with. 

Guests and cleanliness are my top pet peeves. But you do live with a roommate so the best you can do is try to agree with him on some rules. Next time If you wanna be able to call the shots you can try to be the one paying the rent and on the lease so the other roommate knows that you call the shots and if you want them out you can do it. Tell him you want to have better communication about guests. He needs to know how many people are coming before hand and let you know. 4 people is rediculous. You could agree on a max amount of people and a max amount of nights they can stay. Good luck bee. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I’m a bit torn about this if they are there only few days. I do think people need to respect their roommates and good communication is a key. But I also don’t think it should be necessary to ask “permission” or set up too many rules if you are having your friends over for a weekend. Especially if it doesn’t happen often.

I think the key is if you are sub-letting your rental to him or if he is an equal on your lease. That determines how much rights you have to set up rules.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’d probably not be too happy but I’d be okayish for a few days unless they were really hogging the bathroom, especially before I need to get myself to work. I agree with the other bees that it’s a good idea to bring this up after the guests have left. I’ve lived in several shared flats and some guests my roomies had were no bother at all, they helped with chores and didn’t get in the way. Others on the hand left their stuff lying around and were a right nuisance.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

That would be a whole heap of oh hell no for me. I hope they make themselves scarce and depart with no issues and I think it’s a great idea to speak with him after they leave.

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