- 5 years ago
Okay, so I made the GIANT mistake of moving in with one of my best friends. We are both 27, I have a dog, she has a cat. We both signed the one year lease.
We have been living together for four months now, but over the past month the problems have escalated drastically. She used to have people over on weekends, now she has people over 4 times a week, some are middle aged people that she meets at the bar, and its never one or two, I will come home to ten or more people. She used to let people smoke pot in the house, now I have been finding evidence of coke use all over the house, even on weekdays! My room has been slept in, my clothes, jackets, shoes worn by her friends and even some of my jewelery has been stolen. I got a lock on my door, but now she says if I don’t want anyone to touch it, use it or eat it, I have to keep it in my room. She allows anyone to come over, people I don’t get along with, ex boyfriends, people who disrespect me, but if I bring over my friends who she doesn’t like she physically threatens me. She has threatened to stab my boyfriend (she said he is allowed over, but if he pisses her off she will stab him) but hers is over 6-7 nights a week.
I don’t smoke or drink so being around the party life all the time makes me uncomfortable enough, but now with her strange friends coming and going as they please, everyone staying up until the next day and the physical threats, I just don’t feel safe either.
I have tried to talk her about these issues more than once. She always responds saying she hasn’t harmed me, that I am overreacting, and that these things happen in HER house.
I have let the landlord know I am moving out in a month, I am hoping she allows her to stay and just get another roommate so that things don’t get more complicated.
I am so afraid to tell the roommate I am leaving, I know she doesn’t want to live with anyone else because no one else will put up with her. I am afraid she is going to make my life a living hell and destroy my belongings in the meantime.
Does anyone have any advice on how I should break the news to her? What I should do?