Post # 1
I posted a question about my Rose for Mothers ceremony a few days ago. But now, i have yet ANOTHER problem. But first, a recap. My FIs mother is deceased, and his father recently remarried a wonderful woman. We are planning on giving her and my own mother a rose during the ceremony, and lighting a candle in remembrance of his beloved mother.
Now, the dilemma. My father has a live-in girlfriend, theyve been together for over two years. She and my father have helped us out ALOT financially in the past year. I do not consider us very close, but close enough. Should we include her in the rose ceremony? My mother also has a partner, with whom shes in a domestic partnership. We are very close. Should we include her also? I just dont know what to do!
Post # 3
Are you totally set on the rose ceremony? It just seems like you have so many potential people to include that it kind of dilutes the senitiment… Personally, I might leave it at the rose for your biological mom, and either the candle or a rose for his biological. Then the distinction is clear cut, and you don’t have to make any subjective decisions of who’s “deserving”.
Post # 4
Personally, I would do rose for your mother and candle your future hubby’s mother. Your hubby’s father was only recently married. She, your father’s girlfriend, and mother’s partner, I’m sure, would be totally understanding. It makes things less complicated. I assume they will feel reasonable and just happy for you two that they won’t be petty by seeing it as being left out.
Post # 5
I am definitely set on this Rose ceremony. I think youre right though, giving out roses to those who arent the actual MOTHERS, takes away from the sentiment.
Post # 6
Yes, I would stick with the “biological” mothers with the Rose ceremony. It makes more sense that way.