Post # 1
My hubby was let go from a special project. He’s phenomenal in his field though he’s new to it. He didn’t lose his entire job, just got booted from this project.
It’s hard to wrap our heads around it because he wasn’t booted because of the quality of his work (at least, we don’t think so) but because of his appearance. He’s in theater/arts and was let go because he was too skinny. Too skinny and “nice” looking.
I’m not going to be naive and say that there was no possibility that his overall “look” hasn’t helped in other ventures…and I’m not going to be naive enough to say that it should all be about talent and looks shouldn’t matter.
Sigh…I just don’t know how to support him in a situation like this.
Post # 3
Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear that. The husband of one of my close friends is in acting/theater, and he’s constantly dealing with the pros and cons of his “look.”
When my husband is stressed about job-related things, he says that I support him best just by being there for him, listening to him, helping him get his mind off the work stress, and maybe bringing home a bottle of wine. 😉
Post # 4
What was the project? Did he have a part and then was kicked out of it?
Also, is he a cuddler? Sometimes good ‘ol fashioned cuddling can help!
I do hope things get better for you and for him. I’d hate to be judged because of my appearance, because it’s something you can’t change like a work ethic or personality.
Post # 5
Love, love all over him. Wow. That is incredible based on his ‘look’?
Post # 6
The “project” is a show for the theatre (he has other engagements with numerous theatres and this boot doesn’t affect his other jobs).
I mean…the act of booting someone off really only happens one out of a few hundred gigs so I suppose it was bound to happen eventually. His looks have definitely gotten him other cliche parts, so we can’t argue about fairness here. He mentions that there should be some level of comfort in knowing that it wasn’t a lack of work or ability that caused this loss but he still feels so rejected.
In theatre/arts, you are constantly judged based on your looks, your personality and hell, even you ability to kiss ass to the important people. (being buddy-buddy with the director def has it’s perks)
Maybe it’ll get easier since it’s a part he wouldn’t have been well known for anyways 😉