(Closed) Rough Draft Guest List: Opinions Welcome!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes, I think that whose over 18 should receive their own invitation, with a plus one.  You know your relative better than any of us, and therefore you know whether or not it would phase them if you didn’t.  It’s your wedding, it should be your choice. I personally would.

If your parents are helping out will they be helping out enough to cover the cost of all these ‘extra’ guests?

Post # 33
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629 posts
Busy bee

@lemiller:  You may want to close this topic, you’ve got some useful advice from different views, and it seems to be getting fairly heated, especially for a month old topic.

Post # 34
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1447 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/planning-your-wedding/158-wedding-guest-list-faqs

Quote (emphasis my own):

What do I do about including partners?

Partners of invited guests must be included in a wedding invitation. This includes couples who are married, engaged, or living together. Allowing single guests who aren’t attached to a significant other to bring a date is a thoughtful gesture, but one that is not required.

There.  It even defines what a “partner” means.

Fiance and I are keeping our guest list pretty small (under 100), and while we have met most of the people on the guest list, there are still a few on his side I haven’t met and a few on my side that he hasn’t met.  “Deal with it” seems to be the best way to handle the situation.

If you want to limit your guest list to only people you personally know, perhaps you can just invite those couples you both know.  That seems more fair than splitting couples up.

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