(Closed) Rough patch or red flag?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

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ladyofleisure:  it sounds like during your break up you started moving on emotionally and never got reinvested into the relationship. I’ve been there before trying to get back together with an ex I was crazy about before, and realizing I got over them while we were apart. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee

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ladyofleisure:  you shouldn’t settle. And you should go with your gut. If something feels “off,” and you can’t imagine spending your life with this guy, then he’s not the guy for you. When you find the right one, you’ll know it. There will be no doubt in your mind. I think it’s best to break it off now to avoid stringing him along. Good luck!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I feel like I remember reading something like your previous post before.

To be honest, he sounds kind of ‘meh’ to me. You are still in your 20’s…if he isn’t working for you, then let it go. Trust me, I learned this the hard way: if you are asking message boards what to do, then you already know and just want validation. 

1000 *hugs*, sorry things are so strange right now 🙁

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I dont’ have much to say, but I think you should definitely wait…maybe one more year atleast to really see if this will be worth it or not. Not everyone is perfect, he has flaws, but he also has a good and loving side. If you give it a little more time youll be able to really see if this is the man you want in your life. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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ladyofleisure:   I think you know, deep down, that you are settling – listen to your gut and find someone who is emotionally stable and who comprehends not just your words but the emotion behind them as well.   This guy seems to at times assume the worst of you – that’s not going to sit well long term.  You know you deserve better.  *hugs*

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Meh. You don’t sound that into him, much less in love, gotta marry him. I say let him go.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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ladyofleisure:   I don’t think you have wasted a year.  You have learned a lesson about your own self worth, and from your excellent analysis of events I’d say you have taken a huge step towards identifying the treatment you deserve.   I admire you – I wasn’t as discerning until much later in life.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Definitely a red flag. Get out.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It sounds to me like you want to get married but not necessarily to this guy. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

He sounds awful to me.  And you two together sound like a round peg and a square hole… you’re not able to joke around with him?  That’s all my hubby and I do, haha.  He might be the most attractive round peg in the world but it ain’t gonna fit.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

He even brought your fruit roll ups to your new place. Wow. He sounds charming. 

Bee, you already have that nagging doubt and it seems for good reason. This guy isn’t making you feel adored and cherished and wanted. the right man will. Sure, no one is perfect, but you will know when you are truly loved. Wait for it, search for it, don’t settle for less. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

What do you mean ‘he got ugly’ & he ‘flipped out’?  What were the behaviors?

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

You gut is over it – that is loud and clear. That’s why you made the post. You should find someone better suited for you. And it’s not a waste- you learn what you want or more often what you DONT want in a partner.

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