Post # 1
I feel really really bad complaining about anything related to pregnancy since I know I am blessed to be pregnant and wanted it badly, but…i’m feeling sooo terrible and every day is a struggle that feels almost impossible. I’m 9 weeks and vomiting all the time, feeling dizzy, have bad headaches, and am exhausted to the point I cannot stay awake at work. I was given medicine for nausea but had to stop taking it as it made me too drowsy having the effect of a sleeping pill!. I just feel like I can’t do this much longer and am starting to feel indifferent towards having a baby and like i am not going to be able to look after it.
Thanks for reading, just needed to say it.
Post # 3
@Mrsluckywife: Yes, I was horrribly sick as well. I finally had to just fill my Rx for Zofran. It has helped me a lot. I can now be as productive at work as before. it made me a little drowsy, but being pregnant does that too…..so it was the same for me. I hope that you get relief soon.
It it makes you feel any better I am now 11 weeks and haven’t had to take my pill today yet.
Post # 4
Being pregnant and growing aperson is exhausting work! I didn’t have many sick days, but I was EXHAUSTED. It makes me scared to have a second child..how the heck would I keep up with the one I have being that tired? lol
I am sorry you’re sick on top of being tired. It’s crummy. It will get better though. Try to take it as easy as possible.
Hopefully in a few weeks, things will even out hormonally and you’ll begin to feel better 🙂 It’s all worth the work!
Post # 5
@Mrsluckywife: Hang in there hun – growing another human is not easy work! Here’s to hoping the second trimester brings your some relief, only a few more weeks! get as much rest as you can and eat really small snacks and eat frequently..even if its just slatines. That should help some with the nausea. The connection with the baby will come. Just wait until you are feeling better and can feel that little one move around inside of you. Best of luck!
Post # 6
@Mrsluckywife: I’ve been pretty lucky so far, but I had a friend who could barely get out of bed in the morning. She had to have saltines with her at all times, she couldn’t work, nothing but throwing up all the time. I can’t imagine how hard it was.
She wouldn’t let her doctor alone. She kept going back and telling them that x didn’t work or x was too much and was putting her to sleep. They finally settled on a half tablet of unisom twice a day, which did the trick without taking TOO much out of her.
Don’t let your doc brush you off!! Keep going back and making them try different options!!
I’m really sorry that you are having a rough time. just remember – all’s well that ends. And this too will end.
Post # 7
Hang in there!! ((hugs)) My 1st trimester was just awful. I know many of us here can relate. It is super exhausting. Can you take a nap during work? I would go to my car and just shut my eyes for 15 minutes and that would help get me through the day!! Hang in there. This WILL pass. 🙂
Post # 8
@Mrsluckywife: Make sure you talk to your doctor about how you are feeling as well. Talking to mine made me realize it’s completely normal to question wanting the child anymore and even considering to end it to get relief. I’m suffering from hyperemesis, been on Zofran for 8 weeks with some but not full relief. It’s been a tough battle, but I’ve finally started getting good days. Once I saw that 12 week ultrasound where it looked like a real baby, things started to become more positive. It took until almost 14 weeks for me to accept and announce it to everyone as I was having such a hard time.
Post # 9
I definitely told my husband at one point around week 8 that I wasn’t sure I wanted to do this anymore. I cried and cried and said I couldn’t take much more of it. When I was at my breaking point it finally eased a bit (week 10). It isn’t better completely. I am 12 weeks tomorrow. I threw up this morning and feel nauseous every evening still. But it isn’t all day anymore and I don’t hate food so it is totally bearable now. I’m so sorry and empathetic for where you are. You are strong because you are a woman and you will make it. But it is really rough. Hugs to you.
Post # 10
Oh and about the indifference… I was just talking about that with a friend and we both were the same way! I didn’t think about the baby at ALL from like weeks 6-11. Just since starting to feel better and the doppler have I started to think, “oh wow, I’m having a baby!” Before it was just like, “Ugh I am pregnant and sick. Don’t throw up. Don’t throw up.”
Post # 11
*Hugs*. You will get through this I promise. I threw up night and day for 14 weeks and now at 30 weeks I feel like I can hardly remember what that felt like. Personally I hate being pregnant, but that does not mean I am not thrilled that I am pregnant with a healthy baby girl it just means I am not a fan of spending 40 weeks sick and in pain. Take as much time as you can for yourself. If you want to go to bed at 6pm and not make dinner then do it. Ask for help and order takeout. It will be over soon, it’s just all about survival right now.
Post # 12
@snoie: I totally agree with what you said. I also had hyperemesis (with both pregnancies), but I wasn’t actually diagnosed until AFTER my first was born. I did a lot of research in between pregnancies, and while my second was a lot easier in many regards, it was still really difficult. Also, I’m on an HG support board (http://www.helpher.com, check out the forums). It’s been incredibly helpful to me to have other women who truely understand and can relate to what I was going through. It’s a really great resource, and I hope you check it out.
OP – Don’t give up. There are many different medications /medication combinations and even alternative medicine options (like acupunture, accupressure, chiropractic care, etc…) to try. Talk to your doctor again, and advocate for yourself. PM me if you need help identifying specific options to talk to your doctor about, but there are other treatments out there that may be able to help you. Hugs, I know it’s tough, but hang in there.
Post # 13
I was never so sick that I didn’t want to be pregnant anymore, but it was bad enough that I HATED being pregnant and couldn’t remember why I had wanted this so bad. It seemed stupid to me to have gotten myself in this situation voluntarily. When Darling Husband asked me innocently when I thought we should have a second child, I felt like telling him NEVER.
I magically started feeling much better at the 10 week mark (FX for you!!!). As soon as the nausea tapered off, I also noticed that a lot of the anxiety and ambiguity about having a child disappeared. When before I was worrying myself silly about whether I would be a good mom, would mess up my child, or how I would tackle all the responsibility, suddenly none of that was an issue anymore and I just felt relaxed and happy about growing that little person inside me.
Post # 14
@Mrsluckywife: Oh, (((((hugs)))))). I had really bad nausea from weeks 6-10, though I wasn’t throwing up very much — but even with that, I hated being pregnant. I don’t know if it’s possible to logically explain — I was grateful that I got pregnant, and excited to have a baby, but the in between process of being pregnant seemed like hell, honestly, and I’m only admitting that now. At 11 weeks 2 days today, I feel so much better — it’s like night and day. I can honestly say I feel good about being pregnant now.
I really hope you get relief soon, either from the end of the first trimester or from your doctor. Just know that you are not alone in feeling the way you do.
Post # 15
THANK YOU so so much to everyone for your supportive comments and encouragement, it has helped me so much just reading through these and hearing all your stories. I will try to keep being strong and hoping it gets better soon. Thank you 🙂 xx