(Closed) Rough waiting day ahead…

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
132 posts
Blushing bee

I totally get where you’re coming from! A few months ago my SO and I were in a minor car accident (it was our fault, no one was hurt, it was just a small fender bender) but because we are so young (22) we had to pay a lot for insurance. This resulted in us losing a lot of our savings πŸ™ the thing that really sucks is my SO says that if that didn’t happen then we would be engaged already.. But it did happen. And now we’re back to rebuilding our savings. Like yourself, there’s nothing we can do but take each day as it comes (and each pay cheque!). 

I really wish you and your SO the best of luck in him finding a new job soon! I’m sure he will be employed again soon and before you know it this time of your life will seem so insignificant. I know this day will be tough, it will probably also be tough for your SO (he wanted to ask you to marry him today and he can’t because of a series of unfortunate events).

Please update and let us know how you guys go! Praying that he gets a job soon πŸ™‚

Post # 4
Hostess
6081 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2019

Urgh, just wrote you a huge reply but it didn’t post, so here goes again.

I just wanted to say I know how you are feeling. Last April SO and I had a timeline talk and agreed to get married Spring 2014 so we would plan on getting engaged EARLY 2013. He said he would save for a ring etc. So of course I thought this was a done deal. In Oct we moved in with each other. SO struggled to find full time employment in our new area so pretty much had no money for 5 months with me having to pay for most things including rent and bills. It sucked. It sucked even more knowing that a proposal let alone a ring would be coming. Of course EARLY 2013 has been and gone. No engagement in sight.

Of course I am super bummed but it isn’t anyones fault. It has just been a tough time. I wish I could talk to him about it but don’t want to make him feel bad. I makes me super bummed some days but oh well.

 

I just wanted to say, things will get better. After 5 months SO finally landed his dream job and now we won’t be so poor. Even though I doubt a proposal will be coming any time soon. So…. without meaning to tread jack I just wanted to explain I know how you feel.

I am sure you SO will find something soon. I know it sucks to have a timeline and then have it taken away and to be in limbo again. PM me if you want to vent. I know I need to once in a while but sadly all of my friends are married and seem to have forgotten what it is like to wait! Good luck to you xxx

Post # 5
Member
764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m so sorry about what you are going through :-(… but hang in there because at least you know for sure its something that he is not only thinking about making moves on …

The hard thing for us ‘waiting’ is that no matter what is going on around us we still really want to be enagaged we can’t help that esp. when hearing all the other women getting proposed to etc. it kind of adds to the anticiapation of things you know…

 I think for men its so hard because the status of their careers really define who they are and if they dont feel like they’re making any money or working then it will put a damper on everything.

I’m sure once your man gets back on his feet the first thing he’s going to do is purchase that ring and propose to you πŸ™‚

Good Luck ! keep us posted

Post # 7
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764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@NicoleLyn1218:  awww you sound like you have an amazing man in your life ,

He def wants to make you happy! 

 just reassure him that you just want to be with him and have something to show for it , as soon as he gets back on his feet he will give you something amazing i’m sure …

this could be a test of how strong you guys really are andyou guys sound pretty solid to me πŸ™‚

Post # 9
Hostess
6081 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2019

@NicoleLyn1218:  Yes, it does sound like we are in the same boat. Me and SO will be together 4 years this summer so I think now is the right time but oh well. I need to wait for him to get back on his feet and once he feels more like a man and a grown up things may change. It is tough though. I have never been the kind of person who wants things just because everyone else has them if you know what I mean but god damn it I want to marry him. His problem is he feels like he has to wait until he is good enough for me! I am like, honey, if I didn’t think you were good enough for me I would have kicked you out by now! ha ha. Anyway like I said PM me if you ever want to rant about how much waiting sucks the big one! x

Post # 10
Member
764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@NicoleLyn1218:  Oh wow ! thats so sweet and those moments you guys have b/w you two just justify why he sees you as the one b/c for men its so hard to show thier more sensitive side and you’ve made him feel that comfortable and so you WILL be his wife one day and I’m sure he looks at you that way already πŸ™‚

Good Luck !

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