(Closed) Royal “thank you” notes

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Brides shouldn’t send emails because emails are cold, impersonal, and can be copy and pasted without putting any thought or effort in.

If all of Britain sends you gifts, then I give you permission to email them thank yous 😛

Post # 4
Member
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Perhaps ettiquette might permit that because you are not directly gifting to them, but to the charity instead? (So the charity ought to send a note.) It’s possible/likely you’ll get a note mailed to you from the charity or their peoples later. I also suspect the people who are actually invited to their wedding will get a proper thank you note.

Post # 5
Member
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

It will catch on. If it’s good enough for freaking royals, then it’s good enough for the rest of us. I don’t see how taking the time to type a personal email is any different than handwritting it. Oh? It’s not? ^_^

Email: Dear Susie. Thank you so much for attending our wedding and sharing in our special day. It was so good to see you since it has been so long. I really enjoyed meeting your fiance! He was a riot! I also want to thank you for [insert gift] It’s going to help out so much for my famous dinner parties! I hope to see both of you at them! Thanks again!

Bride.

Handwritten: (Same as above)

What’s the difference?

Post # 8
Member
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Miss Tattoo Would you feel any different if you got that thank you on your facebook wall? in a text?

communication is just as much about the medium as the message. The different mediums have different meanings attached to them.

Post # 9
Member
1212 posts
Bumble bee

I wouldnt mind getting a thank you email at all. ( Just don’t break up with me on a post-it!)

Post # 10
Member
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with the post. A personalized e-mail can do just as much as a hand-written letter. I could even go into more detail because it isn’t as laborious as hand-writing a letter. It is also an eco-friendly alternative.

Post # 11
Member
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Good luck using the “well, the royals did it” excuse if you’re sending an email instead of a letter.

Post # 12
Member
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I feel like for actual family and close friends who will no doubt gift them other than the charity, they probably will write real notes. They’re just in such a unique position where they will probably have tens of thousands of gifts and it is completely impractical for them to consider trying to send a letter back each person.

Post # 13
Member
14495 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that if actual “wedding guests” were to bring a gift then they would be sending thank you notes to guests. There is a huge difference between a Royal Successors wedding and, well, any other wedding. I am pretty sure that a whole nation and it’s affiliates will not be sending me wedding gifts.

Post # 14
Member
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t mind a thank you Facebook post as long as it was sincere. A thank you is a thank you. They could call me and say thank you over the phone and I wouldn’t flip out about it.

Post # 15
Member
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@MissShork: I totally agree with this. Even with an identical message, the medium it is presented in has a huge impact on the communication.

Even with an identical, personalized message, an email, facebook post or text message feels extremely cold and impersonal when compared to a handwritten note.

These royal thank you emails are a very different situation than any of our weddings. I’m sure that their actual wedding guests will get very formal, fancy, handwritten thank yous for their gifts. That is just impractical when an entire nation and then some is donating to a wedding charity.

Post # 16
Member
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I totally agree.. Its so funny they are doing this I had no idea.

The topic ‘Royal “thank you” notes’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors