(Closed) RSVP

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: When is your deadline for people to RSVP?
    1 Week Before Wedding : (0 votes)
    2 Weeks Before Wedding : (6 votes)
    17 %
    3 Weeks Before Wedding : (9 votes)
    26 %
    4 Weeks Before Wedding (1 Month) : (12 votes)
    34 %
    5 Weeks Before Wedding : (1 votes)
    3 %
    6 Weeks Before Wedding : (6 votes)
    17 %
    7 Weeks Before Wedding : (0 votes)
    8 Weeks Before Wedding (2 Months) : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    My deadline is 2 weeks prior to the wedding. If they don’t RSVP, I plan to call their lazy butts and ask if they are coming or not.

    If I cannot get an answer, I will assume no, but make sure I have extra food, just in case. Sometimes people forget to RSVP, although they mean to.

    Post # 5
    Member
    33 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I have two RSVP dates – one for my family and one for everyone else.  My family is notorious for making last minute decisions and I don’t need the stress….so I mailed out their invitations early as well as provided an earlier RSVP date.  Their RSVP date is 8 weeks before the wedding.  This way it gives me more time to follow up.

    Post # 7
    Member
    248 posts
    Helper bee

    Exactly 3 weeks – and we will be calling everyone who doesn’t reply. It’s too expensive to add “extra” plates just in case at our venue. From now on I will be the perfect wedding guest and reply the day I get the invite!

    Post # 8
    Member
    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We will probably do 5-6 weeks.  Most people forget, so, I figure by the time we actually get hard numbers it will be 4 weeks.  Our venue needs a head count 2 wks in advance.

    Post # 9
    Member
    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Our RSVP date will be 3 weeks prior. Several things are dependent on knowing the final head count: catering, rentals (reception is in a tent at my parents’ house), quasi-destination wedding. My caterer doesn’t need a final head count until 4 days before the wedding, but I want to make sure we have enough chairs and tables for everyone and that the late responders have booked hotel rooms. Assuming they are late to respond is indicative of their not having made a hotel reservation.

    I will also be relying on my mother to contact all family and family friends who have not responded. My fiancee and I will be responsible for contacting our friends. My Future Mother-In-Law will be responsible for her peeps. Just coordinating this communication will take some effort, esp considering it took WEEKS to get some people’s addresses. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    124 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    We chose one month before because so many people are coming from out of town. Our RSVPs are due on Saturday and with 80+ still not responding, it looks like we’ll be spending the weekend on the phone.

    Post # 11
    Member
    456 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I’m doing 3 weeks. Basically it doesn’t matter much for me. I have a pretty good idea who’s gonna show up. And we’re barely feeding them, just cheese and fruit tray kind of things so it isn’t expensive to have too much. Same with the cake. We’re doing cupcakes, and the lady’s being awesome with price, so if we have too many, no big deal. More for all the kiddos to take home!

    My mom keeps telling me that no one really RSVP’s anymore, so not to expect too much of a response. Any body got thoughts on that?

    Post # 12
    Member
    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We did 4 weeks.  We have to have a final head-count to our venue at the one week mark.  If we don’t receive RSVPs from guests by the 3 week mark, I (or my family) will contact them via phone/email to see if they will be attending. 

    @ Liz.smith – I’m sure some people do not RSVP, but I always make sure to send back the RSVP card!  I hope our guests do not fall into that category!

    Post # 13
    Member
    2205 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We’re donig 4 weeks and chose to have no RSVP card.  We’re allowing RSVPs through our soon-to-be password protected website and via email and phone.  Saving several hundred dollars on postage, paper, envelopes, and printing! (even though I realize it’s not as formal.

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