(Closed) RSVP

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
47445 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would only do that if you blind copy everyone. It would be very rude to let anyone else know who didn’t respond.


Post # 4
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

How many RSVP’s are you talking about?

If it’s less than 20 – I’d just send personal emails – it’s easier to keep track of, IMO.

If it’s more than 20 – then, sure – group email – something like:

Greetings!  Groom and I wanted to make sure you received the invite to our wedding.  The RSVP deadline has passed and we wanted to find out if you will be attending or not.  Would you let us know?  Thanks!

And, YES – ditto what julies1949 said – make sure you bcc if you group email!

Post # 5
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would do whatever I could to make phone calls instead of emails. Then you have the person on the phone, and they have to give you an answer. They can ignore an email.

If it’s a lot of people, recruit parents, wedding party, etc. to help out.

Post # 6
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@MissMaryMc: Agree completely!

If you do a mass email, get ready to still have to try and find another way to contact because you’ll still have a lot of people not responding to that.  I’d try to call anyone I could and at least leave a voice mail.  If they chose not to return it, you can try one more time to email/call/text and after that, count then as a no.

Post # 7
9024 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Mass email will not solve your problem you need to contact each person individually.

Post # 8
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would call people. Or better yet, delegate the calling to other people (BMs or moms, depending on which side of the family needs to be chased down)

Post # 9
843 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

All the people we haven’t heard from are on FI’s side, and the majority are from Brazil.  We had his parents contact them all since they were family.  If it was a friend of ours we contacted them individually through email or text.  If we still don’t hear, then it will be a personal call.

Post # 10
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

If they didn’t respond to the actual invitation, they probably won’t respond to a mass e-mail. You may get a few responses, but everyone else will just ignore it for whatever reason they ignored your invitation. I would give everyone a call, that way they HAVE to respond to you while you’re on the phone. If they were waiting to figure things out, tell them you understand, but today is the last day you can hold their spot because you have to move forward with the guest count in terms of chairs, food, etc etc!

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