Post # 1
Hi fellow bees!
I need a little help with RSVP’s. As I am starting to create my invitations, I was wondering how long before the wedding date should I set the RSVP deadline? I know that there will be straglers and I don’t have to have the final count until 10 days prior to the wedding. But I do not like to wait til the last minute, it is just too stressful. As my Fiance says, if you are on time, you are late.
Post # 3
We are just about to send ours out, so I can’t say yet how effective this will have been, but … the release date on our hotel block is 1 month before the wedding, and so we decided for simplicity and for the extra time cushion that it made sense to ask for R.s.v.p.’s back by that same date. That way, it says it once on the invitation, once on the response card, and guests will also see it on the information insert under “hotel – please note the reservation deadline of [date].” We are hoping that will reinforce it for them.
We are also including “If no reply is received by [date], we will assume you are unable to attend.” I will probably still end up chasing down a few stray responses, but I’m hoping this will cut down on the number!
Post # 4
i did 4 weeks prior to wedding. my venue didn’t need final #’s until the week of.
usually it’s about a week or 2 before the venue needs the final #’s. this will leave you time to contact the no-replies.
Post # 5
We did one month before the wedding, and it seems like a good amount of time.
Post # 6
Thank you so much, that was what I was thinking, but I just wasn’t sure.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We did a month prior, which is what I’d recommend. We had to nudge a few people (mostly FI’s family, grrr!)
This e-mail worked really well for getting people to respond-
“Hey- Just wanted to check on your RSVP for our wedding on July 13th. We know how easy it is to let these dates get away from you, however we need to give our caterer a final number of guests. If we haven’t received your reply card by June 23rd, we’ll have to assume that you are unable to attend (which would be very sad!). Hope you’ll be able to join us on the big day. :)”