(Closed) rsvp ?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
41 posts

This seems to be a repeat of an earlier post, but I’ll say the same thing here.  Just use your personal phone and email.  Presumably, friends and family will already have that number so won’t even use a different one.


Post # 4
15963 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I agree – personal phone and email are fine. You can also coordinate RSVPs for free through your wedding website, right? (If you have one, that is.) I’ve RSVPed for weddings through sites hosted on places like The Knot.

Post # 5
1696 posts
Bumble bee

@dani716:  Good gracious! Of course having guests contact you directly at your personal numbers or e-addresses is appropriate! These are your friends and family: personal attention to them is always at least as proper as dealing with them through a commercial intermediary. Of course, even back in the early twentieth century, a lady with a lot of social obligations might hire a social secretary to receive her R.s.v.p.s without giving any offense to her guests, but the majority of hostesses have always handled their own social correspondence.

That being said, set up filters and check your junk-mail often so you do not miss any, and be prepared for the occasional formal old biddy to send you a reply in writing by ordinary post (which is admittedly not all that ordinary nowadays.) It is not rude by any stretch to use your own address, but it is annoying to your guests if you lose their reply and have to contact them for a second reply, especially if you impy that you have been thinking them delinquent for not replying promptly — as happened to me just a week ago, though in that case I blame dear unreliable Canada Post.

Post # 6
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I didn’t even know this was a thing.  Just have them send back the RSVP card or use the wedding website…

Post # 7
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

@aspasia475:  I love you. That is all.


Post # 8
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@dani716:  if you aren’t doing regular RSVP cards you could always set up a wedding email address for it.

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