(Closed) RSVP Address and Invitation Return Address

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
378 posts
Helper bee

My parents are technically hosting but the RSVPs are coming to our house and the return address will be ours. Our situation is a little different because we’re not even in the same state, but I think that would be fine to have the RSVPs come to you rather than them. Plus, if some of the people saw my parents’ name and address, they would be so confused as to who it was from, since they don’t KNOW my parents.

Post # 4
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I am having them sent to my FH–my parents are hosting, but they live in Asia (and have somewhat unreliable mail delivery!), and I am moving to "our house" sooner than he is, but dont’ have an address for it (PO box).

Not ideal, maybe, but it was that or a friend’s place. 

Post # 5
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

The wedding books say they go to the host, but if you’re doing the planning, it only makes sense that you get them.  I am hosting my own, and I can’t wait to get my RSVPs back.  I love getting mail!

Post # 6
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

my parents are hosting, but i’m doing the planning. however, my mom wanted her address listed on the return address and the rsvp to go to her house. i argued that it would have a texas postmark but "mailed from pennsylvania," but she was pretty adamant that her address was correct.

it was a small battle, and i let her win it. i was sad that i wouldn’t get to see who responded, but i told her that if she’s getting all the rsvps back, then she’s the one who has to fix all of the awkward situations (if someone responded for a guest and they don’t get one, if people don’t respond on time, etc.). no regrets on that one!

thinking about it now though, it is a little weird if the invite says "parents invite you to the marriage of their daughter" and for it go to the daughter. the parents are doing the inviting, not the daughter, so responses should go to the parents. but honestly, i really don’t think people not planning a wedding pay attention to that stuff. 

Post # 7
32 posts

I’d have them addressed to you to avoid gift address confusion.  I can’t think of any other polite ways to indicate where people should send gifts to the happy couple and finding RSVPs in the mailbox and random gifts on your doorstep is part of the fun.

I agree with Rebecca that it is a little odd to have the responses go to someone other than the person who sent the invite but I can’t imagine anyone will get too worked up about it.

Post # 8
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My parents are hosting, so their address is on the envelopes.  For gifts, we are planning on meeting at my parent’s house after the honeymoon to open the gifts and write out the thank you cards– his family will join us at my parents for this event.  I think it will be a lot of fun and a great way to celebrate with our parents as a married couple. This also avoids the issue of having gifts show up at our house when we are gone for two weeks for the honeymoon.

Post # 9
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I think it’s totally fine to address the RSVPs to come directly to you.  Like you said, most people will know you’ve been on your own for a while now.

Plus, is there anyone who really looks that closely to the invitation vs. the address on the RSVP envelope?  They just check the box and stick it in the envelope provided.

Post # 10
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My parents are also "hosting" the wedding, but I plan to use my address for the RSVP’s and return address.  If having the RSVp’s come to your address will make it easier for you to track the guest list, thereby making it less stressful for you, by all means…..

Post # 11
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I think you should just use your address for both. I was so excited to open my mailbox to be surprised to see who sent the RSVP!!!

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