Post # 1
We finally got to nail down a wedding date this weekend! July 10, 2010. Yep….four months! I need some advice on RSVP’s. Is anyone else simply enclosing information to RSVP by phone or email? Is this proper or improper. In this unbelievably technological time, it seems silly to me to enclose envelopes with postage already on them so that most people can forget to send them in anyway. What’s anyone else doing with this one?
Post # 3
I think that most people would probably RSVP that way but you might have to track down some people that won’t respond if there isn’t a card for them to send.
Post # 4
I am including the traditional RSVP paper with my invitations. I have multiple guests who are older and don’t use computers. I don’t really want to keep track of a bunch of people calling to let me know if they are coming or not (I would forget to write the people’s names down, etc. if I were busy when they called). Personally, I am in favor of paper RSVPs.
Edit: If you want to cut down on paper and postage, you could consider postcard RSVPs – I believe the postage is less and of course the paper is too.
Post # 5
YAY…we have the same date! I think it should be fine if you do your RSVP by phone or email. But just make sure to keep track of the people who don’t respond by your cut off date so you can start calling them. Goodluck!
Post # 6
Hey, July 10th was our original date but our venue wasn’t available so we moved it to July 31st. Anyway, we are doing RSVPs by regular mail because we have a lot of older guests who don’t use computers.
Post # 7
We had RSVP cards because a) I wanted to get 60+ extra pieces of mail! I LOVE getting mail 😀 and b) adding an email address would mess up the formatting of my invites (which we designed together). It was a bit of an extra cost getting the cards printed (~$20 I think? We had 4 or 6 per A4 page, I can’t remember), envelopes (we got just plain business ones though, about $35 for 500 so we have TONS left over!) and postage ($30), but it was okay. It has helped keeping track of people, because I can put the cards in one place and always refer back to them.
Our friends had an email RSVP, and my cousin had a ‘phone her mum’ RSVP and it was fine (though… I didn’t get around to calling her mum before the RSVP date!).
Something else I considered was printing multiple versions of the invite, and having my friends RSVP to me, fi’s to him, my parents’ friends/relatives to my mum and fi’s parents’ friend/relatives to his mum. I wouldn’t have even put RSVP details on the invites then (just who to RSVP to), as each person is in immediate contact with everyone in the group RSVPing to them anyway.
Post # 8
Honestly, I have found that people aren’t taking the time to email/phone in an RSVP but do take the time to fill in their name check yes/no and mail it. Don’t know why that is.
I agree with above poster that do the postcard RSVPs because then you only need a 2 cent stamp. I thought our’s were small enough to get by with 2 cent but no, they were 44 cents.
Post # 9
The most traditional way is simply to put R.s.v.p. in the corner of the invite and then put an address underneath it and people write their own responses to you at that address. A modern twist on that would be a phone number or email or both. The only reason I can imagine wanting response cards is if you have menu choices or something. Save the paper, the weight, and the postage! Eco-friendly too! You might change your voicemail for people responding, or get a new email address just for the wedding, so responses don’t get lost…
Post # 10
My fiance and I are doing little mini cards from Moo.com that will say RSVP on one side in our wedding colors and then on the other side has info to RSVP by email or phone.
I know my friends and family well enough to know that MOST will RSVP one of those ways. Its kinda a decision you have to make based on your guests…