(Closed) RSVP and Response Card

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Online RSVP?


    Perk of the modern age

  • Post # 3
    2639 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Are you printing two different RSVP cards? It would seem odd if you sent me a card that gave the option to mail but wasn’t stamped. I understand your reasoning, but if you didn’t have a stamped envelope, it would seem a little cheap (sorry to say!) I’d advise doing one or the other.


    Post # 4
    1056 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Lrroma181986:  I agree with the previous poster. Seems like a lot of hassle. We plan on letting guests RSVP via phone (our cell numbers) or online. 

    Post # 5
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Lrroma181986:  I did this same thing for our early RSVP requests… only put postage for the older guests we knew would want to RSVP by mail OR really respected elders, etc.

    I actually heard from someone that they would have gone online, but they saw that I had put a stamp so they felt obligated to mail it. That was nice of them! Since we were encouraging people to do it online, I knew if we put stamps on all of them, a lot of people would go online anyway and it’d be a wasted stamp.

    Post # 7
    8700 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Love that RSVP card!

    I would personally prefer just to RSVP online. SO I’m glad I wouldn’t be wasting a stamp!

    Post # 9
    3997 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @rebwana:  +1

    I would only do that if I was planning on printing two different RSVP cards. If I received a return envelope without a stamp for the RSVP I would just assume it was bad manners and that you were cheaping out on stamps, not that you planned on me doing it online. Not a huge deal, I just personally wouldn’t do it, but you know your guests best.

    Post # 10
    7439 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    Your RSVP / Reply Card says:  “You may return this card by mail or RSVP online”

    IF you are going to give someone the option of replying by mail… then you need to provide the stamp. 

    In the same way that if you gave someone the option to reply via any other method you’d need to give them the details (ie Phone Number, Email Address, Wedding Website info)

    To not do so, means you are leaving something that is an “expected courtesy” out of the equation.


    You are asking those who wish to mail back the card to provide their own stamp… or those providing via other technology to “track you down”

    Very inconvenient… and inconsiderate

    Make it easy for them… you’ve included your Wedding Website Address.. you need to also provide the Stamp.  (By not doing so it makes it looks like you chose to cheap out… which essentially you did).  Not cool

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 11
    815 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Lrroma181986:  Eh. I’m not even doing that – phone number and email, baby, oh yeah. I’m all for convenience on both sides of the fence…

    Post # 13
    1306 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’d suggest that you consider also sending an email with a link if you’re doing online rsvps. You’ll get much faster and better online rsvps that way because your guests can just click the link instead of finding the card and inputting the website address. (Seems silly but huge difference- we did it and got 25% of rsvps within a coupke months of save the dates 😀 )

    I agree with others about providing postage for any invites that include Mail RSVP as an option. 

    Post # 15
    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @Lrroma181986:  I am providing online RSVP on our website and postcard snail mail option. I did provide stamps for the reply postcards. I felt it’s only right considering that’s an option..I do like having both cause I think it will come in handy for last minute RSVPers for sure! I do know it sucks to know postage can be wasted but thankfully our postcard stamps aren’t that bad…

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