(Closed) RSVP Angst

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

What if you call and see if they received the invitations (which I am sure they did).  That way, a)dont need to apologise for nothing b) can tell mom, “Hi, I mailed out invitations to them, they didn’t respond, leave me alone I have other things to plan right now.”  I love my mom, but I would say that to her in a heartbeat.

Oh and I don’t think you are being irrational about this at all!

Post # 4
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

??? Why did your mom decide they didn’t get the invites? That is such a ridiculous assumption to make! 

In any case, I assume you’ll be starting to call guests whose RSVPs you didn’t receive soon, so you probably need to get in touch with these two anyway. At which point they will hopefully confirm receipt of their invitations and you can (politely) tell your mom how completely off base she was.

Post # 5
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493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Your mom should be handling this, not you.  While it is your wedding, these are her friends and she is the liaison between the two parties.

Tell your mother to not put you in an awkward position of calling up and apologizing to a stranger for assumptions that they 1) didn’t get the invites and 2) are so super mad.  It’s going to create a very awkward position for you and the invitees.

They are your mother’s friends, she needs to reach out to them about the RSVPs. I did that with my mom with her family for my wedding. I can’t call everyone individually. Push it back on her and don’t feel bad about it.

And I hate to say it, but you’re probably right about it not being high on everyone’s priorities to reply. It’s super rude of people, but yeah, there it is.

Post # 7
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Whaaaa why would you assume they didn’t get the invites? That’s silly! I’d tell her that she can handle calling them if it means that much to her.

Post # 8
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2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Ah, I see.  It must be nice to have a clarvoiant mom! But seriously, it is making a bit more sense now, especially if you mom feels particularly close with these women. 

I am just going to put it out there, but is it possible she (your mom) is offended or hurt that they haven’t called to talk about the wedding and to her it is easier to assume they didn’t get the invitations than their not calling and congratulating her?

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