Post # 1
So we invited 156 people. Solid 69 no’s. 65 yes’s. Waiting on 23. Due Sept 21st.
Sad that we are now more no’s then yes’s. 🙁
We had some things going against us. 1) ‘Destination’ for all of our family… we live much further from our family than most.
2) No kids.. because most of our family and friends don’t have any.. and really.. I don’t like kids. I’m sure someday I might, but, until then I don’t. Really don’t.
3) Friday wedding prevented some of our friends’ plus 1’s from comming, but I think it’s fantastic that our friends are still coming.
4) All of my coworkers are men. From what I gather, most men don’t care about weddings. I invited my whole group (18 plus their plus ones = 28 peeps)
I know that the people that WANT to be there will be there, but it’s still sad to get more regrets than yes’s.
Post # 3
Aww I’m sorry you numbers are other than what you want! Luckily there is still time and the ones you want to come will be there 🙂
Post # 4
I feel your pain. We live away from our family and most of friends, too and I think that many will be “no” except for our close friends and family. We only invited around 50 people for a small intimate wedding but it looks like it’s going to be a lot smaller than we thought. We just have to understand that living so far away will be a big factor and money is tight for so many these days. I am just trying not to take it personally and realize that the day is going to be great no matter what.
Don’t get discouraged, your day will be beautiful!
Post # 5
Aw…I’m sorry but I know I’m going to be in the same boat. You will still have a great time with the people that will be able to attend.
Post # 6
Update! Found out that another soon to be married coworker’s bachelor party is the same night as my wedding, and they are all going about 4 hrs out of town for the shindig over a long weekend. Which is a perfect reason for all those guy coworkers to RSVP no.
(I work in a boys-club environment where all the guys do trips and things often. I try to be like one of the guys from time to time, but its hard, I’m a girl. But I routinely talk about the wedding with them (when they poletly ask) and so iniviting them felt right.)
I don’t feel like crap anymore! The coworkers RSVPing no bothered me more than my family not traveling the distance. My extended family cannot afford the trip.. but I really felt sad that all those coworkers couldn’t be bothered for 4 hrs of time of their time to eat *hopefully* good food and free drinks on my tab. (They all go to happy hour half the time on Friday’s without question.. my wedding could have equaled the happy hour. Cocktail hour is by tiki huts on a beach.. sounds like a happy hour to me!)
Turns out they had all previously committed to this fun weekend before me inviting people. Totally okay. I purposely didn’t send out save-the-dates to the coworkers because I wanted some flexibility in the guest list up until the invites had to go out. Congrats to my soon-to-be-married coworker. And boy is there a weight lifted off my shoulders.