(Closed) Rsvp but dont come

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mrsposada:Sorry to hear about that. I would be mad myself if that many people rsvp’d and then didnt show up. And you only got 8 gifts out of all those people??? Does that include the amount of cards you got with money in it? If you are, wow, I would never go to a wedding without bringing SOMETHING. Sorry it turned out for you like this.

But at least you married your best friend and DID have a beautiful wedding. Hope u feel better about it soon. 🙂

Post # 4
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It is understandable that you are mad and ok to vent about it. I would be pissed too.  I just say get to a place where you can let it go so you can enjoy the memories of your day.  You don’t want it to taint the memory of the day for you.  I think it is tacky to not bring a gift (even small) or let the bride know you can’t make it so she has time to change her head count.  Shame on them.


Post # 5
7689 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I hope that you get more gifts soon.  🙁  I got a gift from someone later because they wanted to give it to me personally.  I am sorry that people can be so rude, as to reply yes, and not show after you’ve paid for them.  At least you had a wonderful wedding day

Post # 6
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m sorry — that really sucks. : ( I’ve never heard of anyone showing up to the ceremony and not the reception! Did you have a plated dinner?

Fingers crossed more people mail in gifts. Sometimes people don’t like to send them in beforehand or drop them off at the wedding. Definitely don’t feel ashamed to send out some passive-agressive thank you cards (i.e. “Thank you for supporting us as we shared our vows and became husband & wife. So sorry we missed you at the reception; we hope you enjoyed the party.”)

Post # 7
2126 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s such a bummer…and I fear the same thing will happen to me. Some of my fiance’s family members lack couth you could say. I have never attended a wedding without bringing a gift, an envelope of money…or at least having a gift off their registry shipped to their home a week prior to the wedding. I’ve even sent gifts if I couldnt’ attend. Having said that, I don’t think out of all the weddings i’ve attended…I only got 2 thank you cards from the couple. lame. I guess lack of understanding, gratefulness and respect can come from all directions. You are lucky you really enjoyed your wedding and are only looking back at the aftermath with regret. Many couples get an abundance of gifts/cash but their weddings turn out to be a flop or disaster of some sort. Anywho..it coulda been worse. Leave your registry up. If I were you, I’d let my closest friends and family tactfully and discreetly spread the word of how few gifts you recieved….it might inspire some post-wedding guilt in some of your guests, or no-show guests.

Post # 8
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That’s something I’m worried about, so I can totally understand why you’re upset.  I would be so mad if I spent X amount per person and then they didn’t show up.  It’s rude, unless there is a good reason for the absence (illness, family emergency). 

As far as the gifts, maybe people are mailing them to you?  I kind of hope people mail theirs, give money, or go to the bridal shower.  I don’t want to worry about who/how/when the gifts are going to make it to my home after the wedding.  Besides, you got the best gift of all: your husband 🙂

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