(Closed) RSVP by date?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: When SHOULD they RSVP by?
    1 week (scary option) : (0 votes)
    2 weeks (reasonable option) : (5 votes)
    18 %
    3 weeks (more breathing room option) : (16 votes)
    57 %
    4 weeks (pretty much immediately upon receipt of the invitation option) : (7 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    443 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think it depends on when your venue/caterers need numbers… I think one week before numbers are due should give you enough time to follow up on guests

    Post # 5
    13248 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Mine is 2 weeks before my caterer requires the final numbers, which basically means, a month before.  I will be mailing my invites next week with a RSVP date of 2/16, so guests have about a month to get back to me.

    Post # 7
    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

    My wedding is Feb 23, final # due to the caterer Feb 9, so RSVP date is Jan 25th. That gives us 2 weeks to count, track people down, figure out weird meal requirements, etc etc. I also mailed mine super early to try to avoid holiday card madness, so people will have had them for 5-6 weeks before the RSVP is due.

    Post # 8
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I would never give myself less than at least 2 weeks to track down RSVPs. But maybe that depends on your guest list, mine will be 200+. A smaller group would be easier. I’d say 2 weeks is good though. 

    Post # 9
    182 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I am requesting that ours come back a month prior. We are mailing our invites tomorrow (1/4), the “please rsvp by” date is February 15, and the Wedding is March 16. That way I have plenty of time to track people down.

    @soontobeMrsBoo:  You’re getting married on my birthday!! I will be sure to send some happy thoughts your way that day 🙂

    Post # 10
    4284 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We did two or three weeks. This gave us time to contact the non responders and get a more accurate head count.

    Post # 11
    7901 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    3 weeks is pretty much perfect. That gives guests enough time to plan and ask for time off work and gives you enough time to track down stragglers, prepare your table assignments, and make escort cards, favors, etc.

    ETA: invitiations should go out about 6-8 weeks in advance, so even 4 weeks wouldn’t be right when the invitations are received.

    Post # 12
    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    Invitations should be sent 6-8 weeks before the event, and RSVP’s to be received 1-2 weeks before the wedding.



    Post # 13
    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

    @xlsm:  Thanks! Have an awesome birthday! I guarantee it’ll be a great day!

    Post # 14
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We are doing 4 weeks, but we are also sending the invitations out 11 weeks in advance of the wedding because it is out of town for 100% of our guests and many of them will need to plan travel or book hotels. The hotel blocks expire 4 days after our RSVP deadline.

    Post # 15
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    We asked for RSVPs two weeks before we needed them, which gave us time to hunt down a few people. You’ll also want some time to work on seating arrangements/escort cards if you’re going to have them.

    Post # 16
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @abbie017:  Mine is two weeks prior too.

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