Post # 1
My Fiance and I are running into budget issues are looking to cut corners somewhere. I honestly can’t justify spending money or RSVP cards and postage, ESPECIALLY considering that most everyone on our guest has already told us who is and isn’t going to be there by word of mouth. We’re just inviting close family and friend. We’ll invite about a hundered, but only expect about half to show based on what we’ve heard.
I’m about to finish and send out invitations within the next couple of days. To make matters worse, they’re going out late! I don’t know if the people invite would have time to RSVP through mail. The event is going to be semi-formal church wedding with a desert reception.
Would it be ok for me to put RSVP (xxx)xxx-xxxx on the bottom of the invitation? I don’t actually feel that my friends and family would mind; perhaps would even prefer that. They’re not the formal type and we are the first couple in a long time to actually have a wedding.
Post # 3
I could see this being a huge headache as people are much more hesitant to call someone to RSVP, but you know your guests. In this case I guess it would be fine just to list your phone number to RSVP at the bottom of the invite. If you feel you would get a better response through email, I’m sure you could list that as well. I would model your invite a little more after a shower invitation with the RSVP wording on the bottom.
Post # 4
i think it is fine and a great way to save paper/costs. We are doing an RSVP via our wedding website. I did not give people another option and hope that they will use the website. I know this is setting myself up for headaches but if it works, the RSVPs will be counted in an organized manner for me. I mostly did not want to deal with international postage and saw mailed RSVP cards to be an extra expense.
Post # 5
I’m doing a Destination Wedding, so it didn’t make sense to me to buy response cards/envelopes/postage when 80% of the responses will be people declining. I asked guests to RSVP via phone or on our wedding website.
Post # 6
Like Miss BooBoo I’m having my guests respond to our wedding website or via phone (in case they don’t have internet access). I don’t think you’ll have any problems.
Post # 7
The RSVP with the stamped envelope is just the most common iteration of RSVPing. Technically, you’re just asking them to reply, so whatever form you think you’ll get the most/quickest/easiest responses should be the one you choose!
Post # 8
I would do a combination of email and phone. That way the people that are hesitant to call can still email you.
Post # 9
I just had RSVP by phone or email (similar reasons to yours) and it worked out fine. A friend had everyone RSVP to her website, but that didn’t work out quite so well – some of the older generation were a little freaked out by that, I think. But they would not mind phoning.
It sounds to me (from other RSVP threads) that so many people can’t be bothered to mail response cards back, so the waste is annoying. Definitely have an email option for the shy ones who hate phoning, though!
Post # 10
glad to see we are not the only ones…we are doing RSVP via our website and phone also, just in case people don’t want to use the internet.
Post # 11
You might want to check out AnRSVP.com. It is a free RSVP site, with a bunch of advantages:
- The guest book is updated automatically which saves time.
- The total number of guests who responded “yes” or “no” is provided right away without having to count manually.
- You do not need to provide a return envelope with a stamp together with the wedding invitation.
- There is no risk of mail being lost or that you forget to update the guest list.
- Optionally, you can also be asking your guests about their menu choices. Then, you will know how many guests want chicken, how many want fish etc. without counting them manually.
Post # 12
R.s.v.p. cards were introduced only within the last 50 years or so, and only became common within the last twenty or so. Even today, among folk who routinely hold other formal events and not just weddings, guests know enough to write their “Miss Aspasia Phipps/accepts with pleasure the kind invitation of ….” type of response on their own stationery (and find the printed R.s.v.p. form just a little tawdry.) And even fifty years ago, before R.s.v.p. cards came into vogue, Amy Vanderbilt and Letitia Baldridge were suggesting that “modern” hostesses could use a phone number for R.s.v.p.s without embarrassment.
Personally, I think you should put your phone number, AND your email address under the R.s.v.p. line. It’s a rule of good taste that “form follows function”. The function of an R.s.v.p. is to let you know who’s coming, and giving our guests the choice of communicating that back to you by mail (on their own stationery) or by phone or by email which ever is easiest for them, serves that function best.
Post # 13
Postcards are more environmentally friendly and they cost less than a card with an envelope.
Post # 14
Postcards sounds like a fun idea. Anyone have any suggestions? I don’t know if we have the budget for them, but I can definately check it out. Do local retail stores carry something like that? I don’t want to have to wait for something else to be mailed to me before I can send out my invites.
If not, I may see about setting up a website or adding the e-mail. Thanks for your help, guys! 🙂
Post # 15
You can make them yourself. You can get some really cute designs from weddingchics.com or i-do-it-yourself.com if you are willing to DIY.
Post # 16
We did RSVP’s by phone (b/c most everyone has one) and via our website. It give’s people an option and they are both easy to track. We got a google voice number and linked both to a gmail account. Do what works for you. Good luck.