- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Alright, now I’m rethinking my RSVP cards (of course, since they’re securely boxed in my office – I ordered early, got a fabulous deal).
Here’s the facts: We have 120 people on our round one list, and another thirty or so on our “round two” – still people we’d really like to have if we can make it happen. Fiance & I will have been together almost 11 years. We’ve got a lot of people who’ve supported us along the way that we’d like to include.
I didn’t want to do different RSVP dates for each set of invites because I didn’t want to risk hurting feelings. We really do want all of those people there, we just can’t.
So back to the cards.. I was going to mail them about 12 weeks before the respond date. I made the RSVP date for about 3 weeks before the wedding. The venue doesn’t really need a final count until that day – ie, we can lowball it for the guaranteed #, and they can adjust if there are more.
But it’s since been pointed out several times to me that people will wait until the last minute to send back the cards, which means I might have to delay round 2.
Should I just resign myself to last minute invites? Should I send the first round early, and make some calls a few weeks before the deadline? Should I change the date/order different RSVP cards with an earlier date for round 1?
I know the argument’s there that we should have scaled back what we’re doing to accomodate all of our prospective guests, but… well, we’re already budgeting, we found the venue we really wanted, and it’s too late now.