(Closed) RSVP card doesn’t have option for not able to attend – WWYD?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1289 posts
Bumble bee

I’d send it back with “not able to attend” on it. They may have accidentally left the option off (oops)! If they expected no’s to not send it back then they’ll just know you’re a no for sure.

Post # 4
2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I would just write a little “sorry we can’t make it” or something, that way they know for sure!

Post # 5
8351 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

lol, maybe they were hoping no one would say no 🙂

I agree with

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@SBourgeous:; just writing in your regrets and sending it back to them would be a nice gesture, so they can get a good count for the caterer and favors, if they are having them.

Post # 7
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Yea, I agree that you should just send it back with your own line that says, “Sorry we can’t make it” or something along those lines. That way she knows for sure you can’t come.

Post # 8
1692 posts
Bumble bee

I would do the same thing I do anyway: throw away the pre-printed form, take out my personal informal notes, and write a proper response. The proper form to express that you won’t be attending is:

Miss Iam Troubled
regrets to decline the kind invitation of
Mrs Hostess
to the wedding of her daughter Bride
on (date & time)
due to a prior commitment.

“A prior commitment”, or “inability to travel” are the two generic acceptable reasons for declining an invitation. The prior commitment might be a commitment to staying home paring my nails, and the inability to travel might be caused by unwillingness to spend ten bucks for gas, but we don’t go into that level of detail in formal correspondence.

Post # 9
5150 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I got some fun/sweet messages on our RSVP cards and I’m sure they just forgot to put a “no” option, so I’m all for putting “I’m sorry we won’t be able to attend”. We even got some with fun little doodles, etc

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