Post # 1
I have been looking over lots of sample RSVP cards, but all of them only have one name line at the top (M______________) with room for one person to reply. If you are inviting more than two people from the same household, it doesn’t look like it would fit on the line. It also doesn’t seem to indicate which of the guests are/aren’t attending.
Has anyone tried sending RSVP cards to each guest and have them return it in the same envelope? For example, Joey, Melissa, and their daughter Liz live together. Joey would get his own RSVP, Melissa would get her own, and Liz would get her own and all would mark their entree choices? This seems expensive, but it is the only way I can think of that would get consistent results, but I am open to suggestions!
Post # 3
We’re making our own to avoid that M_________ situation. Instead, we’re just having “__ of 4 guests will be attending” and then below that, a line for them to put their names on. That also will hopefully cut down on people adding plus ones that weren’t intended since we’ll be filling in the number of invited guests.
Post # 4
ours just says Guest(S)_____________instead of M____________
Post # 5
We ordered ours from Wedding Paper Divas and we kept their layout for the RSVP cards, for the most part. We weren’t offering a choice of entree so we deleted that section.
We kept the M______, ___ accepts with pleasure, ___ declines w/regrets.
Most people thought to put everyone that is attending in the M____ line, so for example, they filled in MJoe and Jane Smith. Then they would check one of the two options. If only one of the two are attending (e.g. husband couldn’t make it), it was MJane Smith followed by the check in the accepts line.
We had a kid-free wedding, minus the two FGs. Their parents just stuck on their kids’ names under the M_____ line.
For co-habitating couples, they would put both their names as well (although it’s not like 1) we didn’t know they’re co-habitating and not married and 2) we didn’t know both last names). So it’s MJohn Doe and Mary Smith.
Initially, I was going to delete the M and just keep the line, which is available, but then I thought people may not realize the M is indicative of Mr./Mrs./Ms. and they won’t put a name at all.
Post # 6
Oh, so you don’t write the names of the guests on it yourself? They write their own names on the card?
Post # 7
@CrazyCoffeeGeek: You can write their names in if you think people are going to add extra guests (e.g. +1 or children to adult-only receptions). If you trust your guests, then you can leave it blank and they’ll fill it out.
Post # 8
Ours looked like
_____ Will be attending
_____ Will not be able to attend
but I have seen some that say
Joey will / will not be able to attend and would like salmon / chicken / vegetarian
Melissa will / will not be able to attend and would like salmon / chicken / vegetarian
so that the person just circles the appropriate response.
If Liz is over 18, she should get her own invitation.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
We used the traditional M____ format. It wasn’t a problem. Most people wrote stuff like Mr. and Mrs. Jack Smith and then filled out the number of entrees and everything was fine. Some people write notes around that to indicate which dishes were for whom. If we invited a family of 4, some people put all the names on the line or squeezed them underneath and some just put the head of household on the line but it was clear from 2 steak, 2 fish, that all 4 were coming.
I’d worry about postage if you tried to put three cards in the same envelope.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@CrazyCoffeeGeek: They fill out the cards themselves.
ETA: number the back of the cards to match your master list so that you can match cards up if someone doesn’t put his/her name on the card.
Post # 11
Oh, and I think the idea is that people are supposed to fill in the rest of the M, e.g. Mrs. Jane Smith or Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith, but most of our guests didn’t. It was mostly just the recently married/engaged ladies that correctly filled out the line. That’s not surprising since I’m guessing they just dealt with/are dealing with the same thing.
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
Ours has two _______________ lines, one on top of the other. I don’t like the “M” either, but I think a card for each guests seems like a lot what about the lines with ___accepts and ____ regrets (they’d fill in a number)
There’s so many options for RSVP cards!
Post # 13
Thanks for the reminder. I think all the multiple people in the household we have to worry about at this point are children though. I just worry about the families with like 3-4 kids and trying to squeeze all their names on that tiny line- especially if they try to add titles!
How about writing “The ____ Family” instead of each name then giving a “we have reserved ___ seats in your honor” ??
Post # 14
I bet! I have never actually seen an RSVP card until I got engaged. The only wedding I’ve been to was when I was a young teenager and my parents filled it out for us. I can imagine that a lot of guests who are also in their mid 20s would also be a little confused as to what information they need to put so I just want to make it as clear as possible! 🙂
Post # 15
I’m doing something like this. Then they can’t write in extra uninvited guests! And since I’m making my own, I can add as many lines as I need per couple/family/etc.
Post # 16
I do like the grid idea!
However, I am printing these in bulk and it may look odd to have five lines for names for a family of one or two! Thanks for sharing though, it is very cute with the graphics!