Post # 1
I would love to know what your RSVP cards said if you had a buffet dinner! Here is what I am planning, but I was concerned it wasn’t correct.
Please RSVP no later than September 15
__ Accepts with Pleasure
__ Declines with Regret
__ Number attending
Do I need to add anything about dinner being a buffet?
Post # 2
Nope, you’re good! This looks good.
People will assume its a buffet or it’s a duet entree if you don’t give them a meal choice.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
it sounds good to me 🙂
Is it worth adding something so people can tell you they’re vegetarian? 🙂
I wouldn’t feel the need to tell them it’s a buffet dinner – how would you feel if you had an RSVP or invite stating it was a buffet dinner. Would it change your mind on your response? If you think they need to know then by all means put it, but I’d just be happy to be fed haha
Post # 4
We are having a buffet and didn’t put anything about food
Post # 5
We had a buffet, and this was our exact wording- so I think it’s great!
Do you have a vegetarian option on the buffet? If yes, then you don’t need to ask that. My sister is a vegetarian, so we and one of the entrees on the buffet be vegetarian. If that’s the case, then no need to ask- you’re already covered.
Post # 6
that is pretty much exactly what mine have on them. I didn’t put anything about the buffet but I did put a line for dietary restrictions so the venue could make them a different plate.
Post # 7
I think it’s a good idea to ask about dietary restrictions. We’re doing a buffet too, but I know we’ll have guests who are vegetarian, are lactose intolerant, have celiac disease, have a severe egg allergy, and possibly a couple who are vegan — and I’m sure there’s stuff I don’t know about too. I’m going to make sure the buffet has options for vegetarians and people who are lactose intolerant and will keep eggs out of everything, but my caterers have said that if there are a small number of people with extra special dietary needs they can prepare a special meal for them. Like for example I’m not even sure the vegans will be able to attend, so I don’t want to go to a bunch of effort to make sure my buffet menu has vegan-friendly options just to accommodate two people who may not show! I’ll just get them special meals if they’re coming.
Post # 8
It would depend on what the options are. We are doing buffet for a New England clambake style reception. We have lobster or BBQ Steak tips are the entree choice.
Post # 9
I would add a line about dietary restrictions.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek
I’m doing electronic RSVPs, so mine are a little different, but I’m also doing a buffet dinner. Our meal options are BBQ, vegetarian, vegan, or no meal (mostly for young kids because we invited a few babies and toddlers), and there’s a comment box at the bottom. If you don’t need to let your caterer know about vegetarian/vegan needs, I don’t think you need to include a meal option like I did, but, as others said, you might want to include a space for people to list dietary restrictions.
Post # 11
Agreed about asking about dietary restrictions- if you know in advance you can put little cards next to the buffet items that indicate “vegetarian” or “gluten-free,” etc.
Post # 12
Ask about dietary restrictions. Buffets are usually my worst nightmare.
Post # 13
Why are buffets your worst nightmare, and what would help with this if you’re a guest? Is it that things aren’t labeled for allergens, or that there is risk of cross-contamination between items, or that hosts don’t ask about dietary restrictions and there turns out to be nothing you can eat or…? What could a host do to make a buffet work for you?
We’re planning to offer a buffet because it allows us to spend less on service staff and rentals, and more on providing seriously delicious and interesting food options, but it’s really important to us that ALL our guests can enjoy their meal!
Post # 14
I think if a considerate host is organizing the buffet, it would be fine for someone like myself. However, that is usually not the case for whatever reason.
I am a vegetarian but I am lactose-intolerant and allergic to quinoa and edamame. Not overly complicated, but for some reason, it’s always a struggle for me to eat at buffets. Whether it’s because the salad has a creamy dressing, or the hosts just assume I will eat the sides, I no longer expect to be full at buffet dinners. Most of the time my husband and I will fill out the RSVP card with my food restrictions or speak directly to the hosts, but somehow it seeems to get lost in translation. At a wedding last summer, I was given a quinoa salad. I couldn’t eat that so ended up having cornbread and baked beans for dinner. Not exactly the best thing – especially after driving hours out of town and bringing a nice gift. It’s just unfortunate. Often, having a buffet that would please everyone would require having more dishes than are probably necessary, so I think the hosts may not be keen to spend that extra money.
For people like myself, usually plated dinners are the safest and most enjoyable option. The chef/cook can ensure ahead of time that the meals for guests with dietary considerations are adequate and provide enough sustenance.
At our wedding, I wanted to make sure that my guests would all feel comfortable eating their meal and that they were cared for. We had plated meals and each guest with allergies/restrictions received a full meal that they could feel confident eating all of. Luckily, at our venue the plated option was the same price as the buffet.
One thing we did which saved us a lot of grief, was to make some of the items lactose-free across the board. For example, we had mashed potatoes made with almond milk. No one noticed the difference, and everyone could eat them. We made our vegetarian option vegan so we wouldn’t have to worry about feeding two separate meals for those guests.
Post # 15
That’s helpful, thanks for sharing your experience! Definitely a good point about people getting a complete meal they can feel confident eating. I’d say that nudges me somewhat more towards getting special plates for the celiacs and vegans rather than just trying to make it all work with items from the buffet. I don’t want people feeling like they’re taking their life/health in their hands when they sit down to dinner at my wedding.
I can imagine why that’s a tough combination of food restrictions! I definitely often provide quinoa salad at my own dinner parties as a key part of my “accommodate the people with food issues” strategy.