(Closed) RSVP Cards or Online Only?

posted 10 years ago in Paper
  • poll: How did you/are you doing your RSVPs?

    Old School, RSVP card with self addressed envelope

    Old School & Modern, Both RSVP card and Online option

    Just Online


  • Post # 3
    3674 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    We didn’t have an RSVP card, we just put our wedding website on the invite and said to RSVP there. We also gave a phone number for older guests. I think since it was so casual of a way to RSVP, people didn’t take it as seriously. We had to track a lot of people down.

    Post # 4
    518 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wouldn’t have any problem rsvp’ing via a wedsite or e.mail, but like the PP mentioned, I had a friend who had such a horrible time tracking down her rsvps when she did online only.  I guess they just didn’t think they had to give proper notice since it was via the internet?  The other side is that you’ll have to track down people anyway, even if you put a self addressed stamped rsvp envelope.  If you do the online only route, I’d definitely print a few traditional paper rsvps for older relatives, or those that aren’t computer savvy.

    Post # 6
    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I did what artbee did. I know that when I get invited to a wedding and there is an RSVP card…I forget to send it back….but I never seen someone use a website to RSVP…and I thought wow…that may get their attention a little more….plus my website had additional information for them…where we are registered….driving instructions, photos, where to park, and much much more! It all in all cut down the cost of my wedding invitations…plus I am not having a fancy wedding…ours is much more causul so the invitations didnt need RSVP cards and Dinner Choice cards!

    Post # 7
    2965 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m doing stamped RSVP postcards. I like the idea of online RSVP’s but we have some older guests who are not tech savvy, and I thought it would just get confusing to have both.

    Post # 8
    711 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I did online-only.  The two elderly people who weren’t routinely online were called by my mom promptly, so they wouldn’t be overwhelmed.  


    *  GREENER.  We didn’t want our wedding to be an ode to waste.

    *  Instant gratification.

    *  Cheaper.  (Although this wasn’t really a reason for us.)

    *  In theory, easy to tally and spit out to excel spreadsheet who is eating what, etc.

    *  We had a Destination Wedding and could put tons of information that just wouldn’t fit in an invite.

    *  We could collect extra info like cell# for emergency contact at the ceremony.  (Again, a Destination Wedding bonus.)


    *  When people respond more than once it messes the count, and you need to go back through by hand.

    *  People don’t actually know how to use a URL..only google and link-clicking.  A few people contacted us saying that the URL “didn’t work”.  After watching what they were doing, we say that they were typing the URL into their search engine box.  We were surprised since they spam us with stuff all the time, but I guess the URL’s are always already hyperlinked, and they don’t need to do any more than click them.

    I had to provide enough tech support for the couple of luddites in our small crew that I might recommend against online-only for a large group of people that were relatively tech-unsavvy.

    Post # 9
    38 posts
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We did online & phone (for ppl offline) rsvp. So far 99% of the rsvps have been online.

    Post # 10
    35 posts
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I set up a Gmail account, just for the purpose of RSVP’s. We also included the option of RSVPing by phone. So far, 100% have RSVP’d online.

    Post # 11
    2734 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We’re using the RSVP feature on our wedding website.  We have very few older guests (pretty much just grandparents) and they all are pretty comfortable with computers.  I’m hoping that there isn’t a problem with people forgetting or not taking it seriously, but I really think those would be the same people who would stick the invitation on a table and forget anyways.

    Post # 12
    1162 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think people are better at clicking online than mailing back RSVPs. Either do both or only online.  A phone option is good too, just in case.

    Post # 13
    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We did the whole stamped card thing and only heard back from about 70% of our guests, so then we put an option on our website and put the link as both of our statuses as a while. That really helped; we ended up not hearing from only a couple of people who didn’t end up coming anyways.

    We had a lot of older guests, so while I’m glad that we had an online option, I’m also glad we sent out cards. Yes, it would have been greener not to, but I would say about 30-40% of our invites went to people who are technologically illiterate! 🙂

    Post # 14
    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Our primary reason for going with the old school rsvp is that we are inviting a lot of older people (50+ years old). I’m also not very technologically proficient so I don’t really want to deal with messing around with computer things.

    Also, I like getting mail haha.

    Post # 15
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I’m going online only but including an RSVP card with the address for the website. I’m using weddinwire and you can’t RSVP if I don’t have you listed as a guest. Any of the older guests can have someone else in the fam RSVP for them.

    Post # 16
    6377 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I wanted to do an online RSVP but my mother was APPAULED that I would even suggest it! Whatever, Mom, I’ll waste some more paper.

    Our friends did an online RSVP and as far as I know it worked out fine. They just printed the website info on an enclosure card and sent it with the invite. Easy peasy!

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