(Closed) RSVP cards – tacky?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would have two columns:

Ceremony: Reception:

O We will be there! O We’ll be there!

O Can’t make it.. O Can’t make it..

And then for the reception if you need to make food choices for the menu, just have it below both options.

I don’t think it’s tacky. It’ll make people think twice, but since people are telling you they may come to either/or, I think it’s justified.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

shoot..WB didn’t keep my formatting…but I hope you get that I was trying to make two columns..

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Why would you need to know if people are coming to the church? When people RSVP yes to the wedding that means they are coming to the reception as people know its a head count for dinner. 

However if you do want to know numbers for the church I don’t think its tacky to ask for both.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@PuntaCanaBride: I don’t think she necessarily needs to know how many people are coming to the church.  She just wants to differentiate between the people who are only coming to the church versus the ones who are coming to the church and reception.

That being the case, I don’t think it’s tacky to include this information on the reply card.  Then you will know for sure who intends to be at the reception and thus how many people to pay for.  You can do as napabridekelsey suggests or…

_____ will be attending the ceremony only

_____ will be attending both the ceremony and reception

_____ declines with regret

I think giving people the option of doing reception only, may make some believe the ceremony is optional and I wouldn’t want a lot of people thinking it was okay to skip my ceremony but still come to the reception.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@thefuturemrs.o: maybe an options for ‘will be there to catch the vows but won’t be partying afterwards’??

I think it might be a lot of choices.  I’d probably get confused, but you know your guests better.  lol

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I like vabride’s suggestion!  But you might want it more straight forward.  I loved this idea and did do it for mine, but many of my older guests did not quite understand.  Also since you want further definition (ceremony only vs both) I might do what napabride suggested. 

As a side note, if you do use the one you already prepared ‘enthusiastically’ decline is spelled incorrectly. (I wrote it correctly) Would hate for that to get sent out with a typo!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I dont think thats tacky at all.You have to know! 

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