(Closed) RSVP Confusion…HELP!

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@foreverthine:  you only send 1 per invite. So if you send it to a family (your aunt, uncle and cousin with a +1) in the space for accepting they’d write 4 (if all are coming) and they’d write 2 for chicken 1 for steak and 1 for fish (or whatever). 

you handle the +1 in the addressing of the invite. Say Mr and Mrs Smith, Mr Smith Jr and guest. Other bees will answer more in depth 

Post # 5
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@foreverthine:  just go to a couple of wedding invite websites and see what they usually say and are laid out. Some ppl have fun with them, others keep it very formal/traditional. 

Post # 6
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

You send out 1 Invite per Couple at the same Address (or if they have children under 18 they all are covered by that Invite)

So Mr. & Mrs. John Black


Mr. & Mrs. John Black & Family (then on the inside envelope you write, John & Sue, John Jr, and Diane… to indicate the kids)

Adults 18 and Over get their own Invites

So their oldest son Jack… would be… Mr. Jack Black

And if you know the name and address of his Fiance or Date (if you are allowing Plus Ones) then you send her her own Invite.

OR if you are allowing Jack Black a Date then you can write

Mr. Jack Black & Guest

Traditional RSVPS look like this…


___ Accept

___ Regret

The favour of your reply is requested by August 8, 2013

The text would differ slightly if you use the

 ___ seats are being reserved in your honor  format

In which case it would appear above the Accepts / Regrets part…

This is the preferred fomat for many Brides now as they find it is one way to convey to the Guests that the Invite is for a specific number of people… those who’s names you wrote on the Inner Envelope !!  (You handwrite in the corresponding numbers BEFORE you send them out… John & Sue = 2… John & Sue, John Jr., Diane = 4)

IF you wish to add on Menu Choices… then you usually write them on and ask the Guest to initialize beside their choices.

___ Chicken Option

___ Beef Option

___ Vegetarian Option

___ Child’s Meal

And a good TIP is to put a very small number on the back of your card… that corresponds to your Guest List… so that if someone should mail it back without taking the time to write their name in on the top line, at least you know who the RSVP / Reply Card came from and can call them back for more info if need be.

Hope this helps,


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