Post # 1
I mostly just want to vent a little. I have sent out save the dates a couple months ago and invite a couple weeks ago with RSVP by date approaching in a week (6 weeks before my wedding day). I have received only 40% rsvp cards back already. I am just curious if anyone had similar response, either no RSVP card sent back from large amount of guests and how they handled it. Also, is it that people may procrastinate a bit and may send it right around the day to rsvp by? time will tell but curous to know what your experience has been or was.
After the rsvp deadline I plan to send a friendly message to guests that we did not receive their rsvp card and just checking to see if they would be coming. Do you think this is a good idea? What’s the best way to word that?
Post # 3
I think that’s pretty normal!! A lot of people don’t put them in the mail until the actual deadline.
First email (sent about a week after the RSVP deadline):
“We hope you received our wedding invitation! Will you be able to join us in XYZ city for the wedding? Hope to see you then!”
Second email (sent two-three weeks after RSVP deadline):
“Hi XYZ, we are finalizing our wedding details and headcounts with the caterer. Can we count you in for the wedding?”
Post # 4
We also enlisted help from our moms to follow up with relatives who hadn’t responded. If they’re willing to help out, it’s a nice way to delegate some tasks so you can focus on other things!
Post # 5
I had a lot of people not rsvp so I had to track them down. I actually had to tell a guest that since they didn’t rsvp or even respond to my requests for their rsvp response they could not come (it was hubby’s friend and they were a family of 5). Sorry but if you couldn’t even call me or text e to say yes or no even after I called and texted you then don’t bother coming.
Post # 6
Some of our people mailed it on the respond by date…(and I got it a week later) one told me she knew she couldnt come and wanted to send me a handwritten note and that was in the mail (Never got that one) a bunch of people I tracked down and they said they were coming… and never showed…. some people you will never get to follow a direction. I couldn’t beleive how many of my guests did this that literally just had their weddings too. You would think they would know how it is. I’m still a little sore over the money I lost on people who I tracked down and then they no showed, no call, message, no acknowledgments, nada. Others had emergencies and still sent gifts, which was very nice. It got down to two weeks before my wedding date, and I purposely had my respond date chosen because I was having the wedding out of state and would not be at my house to collect mail. Coming up on our one month anniversary and I still don’t have all those rsvp cards back… so take it from there lol!
Post # 7
@bridalprincess: I did this too.. spread the word that if I didn;t hear from you…don;t be shocked if you don’t have a seat. They still would have had a seat through because of all the no shows we had!
Post # 8
@nl: Yep. We also had some no-shows but still had no room as there were people who showed up that didn’t rsvp or weren’t invited LOL. It worked out for us luckily that everyone had a seat.
Post # 9
@bridalprincess: Oh wow! One of my vendors brought an extra assisitant and I didn’t even know about it until I asked for her staff’s names so I could send a thank you!
Post # 10
That seems normal. Just be patient. You can’t have deadlines and different expectations! You’re well within your right to shoot them a message after the deadline!