(Closed) rsvp cute or tacky

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
1994 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m not sure if its tacky, but its definitely convenient.  It gets my vote.

Post # 4
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Maybe have an email or online option too. It just adds in a little bit more convenience for guests.


It does depend on who your guests are too  I’m thinking of doing an email RSVP for my irish wedding because my guests are scattered all over the world (Ireland, England, India, New Zealand, Australia, Singapore at the very least), and getting stamps & calculating the postage for multiple different countries would be an absolute pain in the ass. Most of my guests for my Irish wedding will be young and I don’t think they’ll be offended by it. However we will also be having a reception in India involving my FIs extended family, and I’m not sure that email/text RSVPs would be so well received with this guest list (since Future Father-In-Law is making the guest list for this wedding, maybe I’ll just let him deal with invites). 


TL:DR anyway, I like the idea, but do cosnider your guest list beforehand. 

Post # 8
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@FutureMrsBess:  A friend set up an email address just for RSVPs it was their [email protected], and people just emailed Rather than mailed in. Not sure if that helps!

Post # 9
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@FutureMrsBess:  If you feel that no one on your guest list would be offended, then I say go for it! I see no problem with setting up a separate wedding RSVP email account – it actually makes sense. Ive got a very messy inbox and I’d be terrified of missing a reply because it got mixed in with my usual mail. (Make sure you keep an eye on the spam folder too just in case ). 


I do find it so much easier to use electronic means of RSVPing. I find that it can be difficult to get to a post office when I’m working, and also I’m less likely to forget if I can just reply straightaway. 

Post # 11
397 posts
Helper bee

I like it!   I would add an online/email option too as PP said.  I’m on the computer everyday and would probably prefer that, if I didn’t want to get into a phone conversation with someone.  Sometimes it is just quicker LOL

Post # 13
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

my thoughts on the matter:

As a guest, I wouldn’t mind and I can definitely see where it’d be easier (especially for the young male population). I think the “claim your seat” wording is cute (but not okay for a formal wedding, but I’m assuming you aren’t having a formal wedding ;))

BUT, as a bride, I would hate it. Think about it – someone could call you when you’re out at lunch, or shopping, or driving, and then you have to remember how they RSVPed until you get home/to your spreadsheet? That would just be a pain to me. I could see myself having a million little notes all over the place, or completely forgetting a RSVP. I’m just saying that because I have a job where people call me to give me brief messages a lot, and I always just tell people “email me!” because otherwise I know I’ll forget/get distracted/whatever.

Post # 14
3369 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@FutureMrsBess:  I love the idea! We were going to use an RSVP function on our wedding website, but since we eloped we didn’t wind up using it. I would suggest looking into that as an option as well if you haven’t already. 

I think using technology rather than mail these days is a lot more realistic. The mail-in RSVP cards are just more of tradition, but the times are changing and the traditions stay the same.

I love your cards! And remove that awful “t” word from your vocabulary! Everyone on this website has amazing ideas and yours certainly is right up there amongst the best. 🙂

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