(Closed) RSVP date???

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll: My RSVP date is....
    2 weeks before my wedding. : (2 votes)
    5 %
    3 weeks before my wedding. : (9 votes)
    24 %
    a month before my wedding. : (21 votes)
    55 %
    5 weeks before my wedding. : (2 votes)
    5 %
    a month and a half before my wedding. : (3 votes)
    8 %
    2 months before my wedding. : (0 votes)
    other I'll explain below. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I don’t know if this is the “best” way but am requesting them to be returned a week before my caterers need the final count. 

    Post # 4
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    2397 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My RSVP date is just shy of a month before our wedding day.  I would have done 3 weeks, but Memorial Day weekend falls within that time period.  In anticipation that people may be out of town, I just went with a month before hand.

    Post # 5
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    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We have an early RSVP date, about a month and a half before the wedding. Partly because I probably am going to have to help people with accommodation and partly because I don’t know what my work situation will be like around that time so I could be in the middle of a crazed “can’t do anything wedding related at all” few weeks.

    And my venue needs numbers a month before the wedding. So I’m giving myself lots of time to chase people up. 

    Post # 6
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    1051 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We have an A list and B list.  Since we have to guarantee 120 and our venue only holds 140, I want to make sure we have enough responses to know who from the B list to invite without making them feel like an afterthought or having the place too crowded.  Our invites are going out 3 months before with the hope that enough people will get back to us at the 6-8 wk range and we’ll have a better idea of where we stand.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1250 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    This is a great post – I’ve been wondering about this myself. I think I’m going to go with a month so I have some time to track people down if they don’t respond by the deadline!

    Post # 9
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    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I haven’t sent mine yet, but I’m going with a month before for my own sanity. My caterer doesn’t need the number until a week before, but if I’m cutting it close at all I want to not go crazy tracking people down.

    If you know you’ll have the time, you could do three weeks, but I wouldn’t do less than that.

    Post # 10
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    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I am putting a month in advance, so I’ll have time to call the people who have failed to RSVP and to give the vendors a final head count.

    Post # 11
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    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Our RSVP date is in March for our July wedding – so 4 months. Considering our guest list is 90% close friends and family that have been primed for this for years with a wedding date/time/and location for the last 7 months I don’t think that is too much to ask. Sending invites out early/late is probably one of the benefits of intimate weddings.

    Lord, most of our guests don’t even need to RSVP because only a natural disaster would keep them away from an open bar.

     

    Post # 12
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    2475 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think 3-4 weeks before the wedding is good.  Our wedding is June 11, and we requested the RSVPs be returned by May 14.  I think it’s safer to go a bit earlier, because you know people may procrastinate and you might have to track them down.

    Post # 14
    Member
    979 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We are doing six weeks, mostly because if we did a month they would be due on Tax Day.  Blech.

    Post # 15
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    2000 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    My wedding’s March 13th & my RSVP date is February 15th. Honestly, you don’t have to worry about this too much because everyone will probably just put it in the mail when they feel like it. A lot of people don’t really pay attention to the date because if they wait until the last minute, they more than likely won’t be sending it back. Good luck! 🙂

    Post # 16
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    1232 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    haha @lees our wedding is march 13th and our RSVP date is Feb 15th too!

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