(Closed) RSVP date???

• HappyPeapod
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2010

I don’t know if this is the “best” way but am requesting them to be returned a week before my caterers need the final count. 

• Blueshoes2
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: May 2010

My RSVP date is just shy of a month before our wedding day.  I would have done 3 weeks, but Memorial Day weekend falls within that time period.  In anticipation that people may be out of town, I just went with a month before hand.

• littlemissmoo
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2010

We have an early RSVP date, about a month and a half before the wedding. Partly because I probably am going to have to help people with accommodation and partly because I don’t know what my work situation will be like around that time so I could be in the middle of a crazed “can’t do anything wedding related at all” few weeks.

And my venue needs numbers a month before the wedding. So I’m giving myself lots of time to chase people up. 

• Curil
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: April 2010

We have an A list and B list.  Since we have to guarantee 120 and our venue only holds 140, I want to make sure we have enough responses to know who from the B list to invite without making them feel like an afterthought or having the place too crowded.  Our invites are going out 3 months before with the hope that enough people will get back to us at the 6-8 wk range and we’ll have a better idea of where we stand.

• farmersdaughter
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: June 2010

This is a great post – I’ve been wondering about this myself. I think I’m going to go with a month so I have some time to track people down if they don’t respond by the deadline!

• ebs1123
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2010

I haven’t sent mine yet, but I’m going with a month before for my own sanity. My caterer doesn’t need the number until a week before, but if I’m cutting it close at all I want to not go crazy tracking people down.

If you know you’ll have the time, you could do three weeks, but I wouldn’t do less than that.

• PrncssDva
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2010

I am putting a month in advance, so I’ll have time to call the people who have failed to RSVP and to give the vendors a final head count.

• Sarah71710
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2010

Our RSVP date is in March for our July wedding – so 4 months. Considering our guest list is 90% close friends and family that have been primed for this for years with a wedding date/time/and location for the last 7 months I don’t think that is too much to ask. Sending invites out early/late is probably one of the benefits of intimate weddings.

Lord, most of our guests don’t even need to RSVP because only a natural disaster would keep them away from an open bar.

• Tulip61110
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: June 2010

I think 3-4 weeks before the wedding is good.  Our wedding is June 11, and we requested the RSVPs be returned by May 14.  I think it’s safer to go a bit earlier, because you know people may procrastinate and you might have to track them down.

• rachel_leigh
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: May 2010

We are doing six weeks, mostly because if we did a month they would be due on Tax Day.  Blech.

• Lees4308
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2010

My wedding’s March 13th & my RSVP date is February 15th. Honestly, you don’t have to worry about this too much because everyone will probably just put it in the mail when they feel like it. A lot of people don’t really pay attention to the date because if they wait until the last minute, they more than likely won’t be sending it back. Good luck! 🙂

• Bella13
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: May 2009

haha @lees our wedding is march 13th and our RSVP date is Feb 15th too!