Post # 1
I’m just finishing up my invitations and just realized that I need to set an RSVP date. I initially put December 1st, but after reading these forums I’ve seen that RSVPs can be a big headache and I was thinking that date may be a little late if I have to call up guests who have yet to reply.
Should I change the RSVP date to an earlier date – mid/late November? Or is this date ok?
Post # 3
Mid/late November is Thanksgiving time…I wouldn’t recommend that being the RSVP time period, as people may be busy with family and forget! I would stick with December 1st or go to the beginning of November.
Post # 4
I’ve read that generally it’s a month out but I don’t see any problem with maybe making it 6 wks out and the at the 5th and 6th week you can make your “just cheking” phone calls….
I think I’ve made an executive desicion right this minute that that’s what I’m going to do. lol
Oh I didn’t think about Thanksgiving… I think that beginning of Nov would work though
Post # 5
I had the same thought, that people would be busy with Thanksgiving – its such a busy time of year!
My only other option is to make it early November, which would give me a good amount of time to contact those tardy guests.
Post # 6
Hi DATE TWIN!
I was thinking of having them RSVP by Nov. 26th. That way we can get RSVPs from family that we will see for Thanksgiving. We will see a lot of people then. Plus, if they mail them late, we still can get them the week of Dec. 1. We will begin making calls Dec. 15 which gives everyone plenty of time.
Post # 7
I agree with the beginning of November because like with our venue we have to pay it in full and if we want to add people it has to be done 30 days before the wedding.
Post # 8
I got married 12/31 and our RSVP date was 12/1. Other girls had theirs the Monday before Thanksgiving.
When is your head count due? I would work back from there and consider adding a week so you have time to call and a few extra days because some will mail theirs the day it is due. Are you doing a seating chart or anything personalized?
We had over 120 people not RSVP so there was a lot of calling to do and we were okay.
Post # 9
I think if you put beginning of November – it’s WAY too early. Dec 1st sounds right and still gives you a couple solid weeks to call people (depending on when you need your final count).
Cute date, btw!
Post # 10
@trugem; woo date twin! How’s the planning going? I’m starting to feel very overwhelmed, but I’m also planning a multi day wedding! Have any vendors charged you time-and-half or double-time yet?
@pendola; our head count is due two weeks before the wedding (I think?!). We’ll just be doing seating cards so thats not an issue. We are inviting 150 to an event on 12/31 and then about 200 on 1/01, so were do have a lot of guests to call if they neglect to RSVP.
I know November seems very early, but I also know people will not meet the deadline and I don’t want to be trying to contact people during those first weeks in December since I also just remebered that I’ll have final exams during that time!
Post # 11
@BriarRose: I am overwhelemed too! Only 6 more months to go (YEY and ARG)lol. You should check out my post about NYD brides (under Jan. 11 board). There was some confusion at the venue, they were going to up it by $1000, but in the end (because they know us and FH family) they went up $400 for the entire building. It is cool because we were going to rent an additional smaller room anyway for that price and they are going to let us use it for free.
Our catereer is cool as well because we booked him for the wedding and while working out a deal with him, we booked him for my daddy’s 50th b-day. Now we are on his good side and he is not requiring a deposit from us.