(Closed) RSVP deadline is next week – still missing over 50 rsvp’s

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We invited about 130 people, and almost all of the people who couldn’t make it didn’t RSVP.  I would say we had about 60 people we had to call, email, etc… to get RSVP’s from after the deadline.  Yeah, it was a lot of people.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Some people wait til the last minute… and others you have to email.. and call… 🙁  Good luck!

Post # 5
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

You will definitely have people that don’t RSVP!  Once we passed our deadline, I broke the list up into 4 calling lists – Me, my now husband, his parents and my parents.  Our parents contacted family and their friends and we contacted our friends.  We’re a month past our wedding and still haven’t heard from some people, but break the list up and it really isn’t that bad!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

my rsvp was monday and i am missing 50% of the RSVPs. So far, its just our parents friends that have not gotten back to us so I told our parents to start callin if they want their friends to be there!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I feel your pain!  We had a smallish guest list (117) and we still had MANY people who did not RSVP or sent in their reply cards well after the deadline.  I ended up having to call around 10 people, which I thought was a lot for a wedding our size.  For whatever reason, it did seem like most of the early replies were "yes" ones and the later ones were "no" ones. 

Post # 8
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

We’ve got quite a list to call.  I suppose it’s probably not high on people’s list, but out out 150 people, we only have definitive answers on 111.  I guess I should bust out the phone soon!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had (and still have) quite a few people who just didn’t bother. We called/emailed lots of people and gave our parents the list of their friends to call. Some people think if they are not coming, they don’t need to respond. HELLO?!?! That’s why there is a "regrets" box to check! This is normal.

Oh and the thing that really got me annoyed was not getting responses from friends who had recently gotten married and should know better!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

It is so irritating when people don’t RSVP by the date requested. Our requested date is Friday and we’ve only gotten 1/4 of the responses back so far. Discouraging, but I’ll be calling most of the non-respondents this weekend to remind them that we need those reply cards ASAP!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

UGH why do people always do that?!? It’s so rude. Literally all you have to do is check a box and put a pre-paid envelope in a mailbox. Really, people? Really? Anyway, since for some reason this always seems to happen, I have, as a bridesmaid, helped out many times with trying to get the stragglers to get their act together. Enlist some help from your maids, family, etc. since there are so many. I was always happy to help out.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

oh I am there with ya honey! we sent out invitations inviting 200 people…how many people have RSVP’d?…..35!!! yup thats it so far!

My RSVP deadline is July 22nd a month before my wedding and thats even cutting it I think! I am at the mailbox everyday, hoping for that next RSVP to come in

I feel your pain! how annoying!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I had people RSVP even after the date.  I think a lot of Chinese people especially don’t know the custom and assume that you just show up.  I’d probably just call people after the RSVP date to see if they are coming.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

yes, i still have a good amount of people who are still sending in their RSVPs and about probably 45% still missing. basically im going to give them til the end of the month, letting both our parents know, this isn’t one of those you can  show up if you want without telling us cuz we need a headcount!!!!

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