Post # 1
Next week is the RSVP deadline (the deadline I put on the RSVP). I kinda figured a lot of people would forget or send in the rsvp late, but I am at this point missing over 50 rsvp’s!
I sent them out early (Beginning of May) since most of my guest list is Out of Town. I got a lot of replies back in the first couple weeks. I haven’t gotten any new ones lately.
Did any of your guests rsvp right before the deadline or late or not at all? About how many did you have to call?
I am getting kinda worried that I will have to make a ton of phone calls. I did make the deadline a couple weeks before my Bakery and Venue deadline for the final count for this reason. I just didn’t think I would have this many people not responding….
Post # 3
We invited about 130 people, and almost all of the people who couldn’t make it didn’t RSVP. I would say we had about 60 people we had to call, email, etc… to get RSVP’s from after the deadline. Yeah, it was a lot of people.
Post # 4
Some people wait til the last minute… and others you have to email.. and call… 🙁 Good luck!
Post # 5
You will definitely have people that don’t RSVP! Once we passed our deadline, I broke the list up into 4 calling lists – Me, my now husband, his parents and my parents. Our parents contacted family and their friends and we contacted our friends. We’re a month past our wedding and still haven’t heard from some people, but break the list up and it really isn’t that bad!
Post # 6
my rsvp was monday and i am missing 50% of the RSVPs. So far, its just our parents friends that have not gotten back to us so I told our parents to start callin if they want their friends to be there!
Post # 7
I feel your pain! We had a smallish guest list (117) and we still had MANY people who did not RSVP or sent in their reply cards well after the deadline. I ended up having to call around 10 people, which I thought was a lot for a wedding our size. For whatever reason, it did seem like most of the early replies were "yes" ones and the later ones were "no" ones.
Post # 8
We’ve got quite a list to call. I suppose it’s probably not high on people’s list, but out out 150 people, we only have definitive answers on 111. I guess I should bust out the phone soon!
Post # 9
We had (and still have) quite a few people who just didn’t bother. We called/emailed lots of people and gave our parents the list of their friends to call. Some people think if they are not coming, they don’t need to respond. HELLO?!?! That’s why there is a "regrets" box to check! This is normal.
Oh and the thing that really got me annoyed was not getting responses from friends who had recently gotten married and should know better!
Post # 10
It is so irritating when people don’t RSVP by the date requested. Our requested date is Friday and we’ve only gotten 1/4 of the responses back so far. Discouraging, but I’ll be calling most of the non-respondents this weekend to remind them that we need those reply cards ASAP!
Post # 11
UGH why do people always do that?!? It’s so rude. Literally all you have to do is check a box and put a pre-paid envelope in a mailbox. Really, people? Really? Anyway, since for some reason this always seems to happen, I have, as a bridesmaid, helped out many times with trying to get the stragglers to get their act together. Enlist some help from your maids, family, etc. since there are so many. I was always happy to help out.
Post # 12
oh I am there with ya honey! we sent out invitations inviting 200 people…how many people have RSVP’d?…..35!!! yup thats it so far!
My RSVP deadline is July 22nd a month before my wedding and thats even cutting it I think! I am at the mailbox everyday, hoping for that next RSVP to come in
I feel your pain! how annoying!
Post # 13
I had people RSVP even after the date. I think a lot of Chinese people especially don’t know the custom and assume that you just show up. I’d probably just call people after the RSVP date to see if they are coming.
Post # 14
yes, i still have a good amount of people who are still sending in their RSVPs and about probably 45% still missing. basically im going to give them til the end of the month, letting both our parents know, this isn’t one of those you can show up if you want without telling us cuz we need a headcount!!!!