- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
So I checked and double checked our invite list and was confident we had everyone on there. Invites went out two weeks ago with the RSVP deadline of June 5th (ok, so not next week but the Monday after). We’ve had lots of add ons to our original invite list but I thought we’d been pretty good about keeping all the addresses on the same spreadsheet.
About three months after we sent our save the dates, FI’s SIL (his brother’s wife) asked if we could invite her brother. We said sure as Fiance knows her brother fairly well (as well as you can when you live in Australia and your BIL lives in Wisconsin. We were then requested by FI’s brother to send an invite to his wife’s parents as well as he thought it would be uncomfortable if they weren’t invited too. Again, no big deal.
Here’s the problem, we sent them save the dates but somehow their names didn’t make it onto my final spreadsheet, so we missed them when sending out invites! Now, if they were an isolated group, no big deal, we could change their RSVP date and let them think we sent out invites late; however, FI’s brother and SIL obviously did receive their invite and have already sent back their reply, so they obviously know invites were sent out and SIL’s family did not receive invites when everyone else did. To top it all off, SIL’s mom has a broken leg and has been staying with FI’s brother and SIL for the past six weeks, so she definitely knows!
Argh, has anyone else ever done this? How do you manage this situation without looking like a total jackass? Or is that just inevitable?