Post # 1
My deadline for RSVP cards was today and I am still waiting for about 3 more. I guess this isn’t that bad but they were people that I know are planning to be there. I expected that a few people would forget but I want to be able to give solid numbers to the caterer. Should I call these people for verbal confirmation? I am so concerned because my wedding is already so small and way more people than expected declined so the numbers are pretty low. We were planning a 50 guest wedding and so far only 44 have confirmed. If we had been planning a 130 person wedding and were still missing 6 acceptances I wouldn’t be as worried because the difference between 124 and 130 is not enough to change the dynamic of the whole event. But this wedding is growing so small it feels almost silly to be spending this kind of money so that so few can enjoy it. How many RSVP did you receive after the deadline? Is this normal forgetfulness or do people really not want to be there? I am probably freaking out just a bit?
Post # 3
call those people!!! its such an easy thing, i dont understand why people cant just send the stupid card in haha
Post # 4
@macbeth91512: I know right? I even made it stupid proof with the postage and the ability to just check a box and lick it closed.
Post # 5
I received two invites recently, within a week of each other, and both brides said I was the first one to respond. Granted, they were online RSVPs, but I almost thinks it makes it THAT much easier! I did it from my phone! C’mon, people!
Post # 6
3 is SO not bad.
Also, know that some people see the deadline as a “mail-by” date, not the date of receipt. So May 23 may have gone down in their calendars as the date they have to get the RSVP into the mail, which means it may take a few days from now for you to actually have it in your hands.
If your caterer or other vendors needs an accurate headcount immediately, then by all means, call the 3 guests and ask. Be polite and suggest that perhaps “it’s gotten lost in the mail.” Annoying hassle for you, but these are your guests and there’s no need to make them feel awkward.