(Closed) RSVP Deadline today. Should I give a friendly nudge?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: FB reminder
    skip it, kinda tacky : (18 votes)
    67 %
    go for it, maybe it will set a fire under their asses : (9 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    Would it be a general message for everyone to see, regardless if they were invited or not?  I don’t like the idea of that. 

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It’s tacky if you have FB friends who will see the message but are not invited to the wedding.

    It’s also probably ineffective.  People who haven’t already RSVP’d are unlikely to get this “hint” or even pay attention to it.

    You should just contact each person individually.  Email is fine.

    Post # 5
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    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Some people will probably be mailing their rsvps today, so it might be kind of off-putting to them.  I’d wait a few days so that the ones that go in their mailboxes today have time to make it through the mail and get to you before you start getting on your guests about it.

    Post # 7
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    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Wait until the end of next week, then start making (or delegating) phone calls.  Also- is everyone on your FB friend list invited?  If not, I’d avoid posting too many wedding related things. 

    Post # 9
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    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @MrsDrRose612:  meh, no worries… desperate times call for desperate measures!

    We decided (sort of jokingly, but not really) that if we get a lot of people who don’t rsvp, then they don’t get a seat or a meal.  It’s like, say WHAT- 25 people responded?  Ok, we’ll set up 25 chairs.  That is all 🙂  We won’t actually follow through with that, but it is amusing to ponder!

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We’re starting to make our calls and send our messages today. 

    How hard is it to put a pre-addressed, stamped card in the mail, for heaven’s sake???

    I wouldn’t do a FB thing, simply because of the huge number of our FB friends who aren’t getting an invite 🙁  We’re having a small wedding, and we have some friends who are going to be offended when they realize they’re not invited. We just can’t have everybody!! So, I’m keeping it off FB as much as I possibly can, so as not to run it in.

    Post # 11
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    2692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I did a FB save the date *shrugs*

    However, I would call each person individually when it comes to the rsvp… wait until the week is up, then start calling.  You’ll get better responses.

    Post # 12
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    190 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I did that; I just posted a general one month to go until we get married post and waiting for the last few RSVPs; nothing rude or demanding and it got responses from 6 of the last 8 people we needed to reply that same night.

    I’m sure the people who didn’t get invited didn’t take it personally; it didn’t apply to them so why would they?

    Post # 13
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    5295 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I was a tacky fb poster….I just said RSVPS were due today or something like that. I figured anyone close enough to have been offended would have been invited in the first place. I had other fb friends who posted (and still do) post about their weddings (that I wasn’t invited to) and it’s just very, oh cool, look at their e-pics, I hope they are doing well…not an OMG how DARE they not invite me, type thing. 

    I got a good 8 responses on that status….mostly from young invitees that were pretty clueless about responding. Including DH’s cousin getting married just weeks after us. You’d had thought she’d have sympathized and replied on time, no?

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    No Facebook!!!  Good lord, everything does not need to go up on the internet.

    Wait until one week after your RSVPs are due, and then start emailing or making individual phone calls. People forget to send in their RSVPs all the time.

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