Post # 1
I knew with planning a wedding out of state the Yes RSVP would be low… but when I was thinking about it, I have friends and family scattered all over the country and we truly had no one area where we had the majority of friends or family. So, we decided to go with my dream and plan a wedding in California, the state where I grew up– in hopes that still a fair amount of people would come, more so than if we planned it in Costa Rica or Hawaii!
So now, the disappointment sets in… I have far more “NO” rsvp’s than “yes” I invited over 150 people and maybe 50 will attend. And my only sister, who I had asked to be in my bridal party long before the wedding had told me that they werent going to start trying for baby #2 until much closer to my wedding to make sure that they would be there (and for other health reasons as well). She also wanted to make sure she would make it as she missed my grad school graduation due to baby #1– well, turns out they actively started trying much sooner and now have a due date a few weeks after my wedding (preventing them from traveling which I totally get). My SO’s brother and sister in law are expecting as well (a whoopsie daisy) and will not be coming either. My SO’s sister and brother in law are also expecting, but a few months after the wedding so they can attend 🙂
I know that the wedding is about my love and me and thats all that matters, but I just needed to vent as anyone I try to talk to about this just says that it doesnt matter and its about us- end of discussion, moving on. I get that, but aren’t I allowed to be a little bummed that my own sister isnt coming to my wedding after saying she was?!?
sorry to be a debbie downer, just needed to get this off my chest and thought maybe some fellow bee’s would understand 🙂
Post # 3
I’m having a wedding, not exactly in a location with all my family and friends and I new going into it that there is no way to please people or my self. Just think of how wonderful it is to have those who could make it there. Maybe you will even save some money.
Its okay to be bummed…it is super disappointing with all the No’s and your sis bailing. Keep your head up and the eye on the prize ( hubby) 🙂
Post # 4
@Miss Ox: Can feel your disappointment especially in regards to your sister, shame. Being British I can see why CA is your dream place to get married. It is disappointing when you get a ‘no’ I only invited just over 60 and I got a few no’s and even someone who I considered a good friend didn’t even RSVP at all. People can be strange. Keep your chin up and focused on the fact that it’s your (you and FI’s) day.
Post # 5
I cant totally understand why you would be dissapointed!! I know its hard to see the no’s come rolling in. I can imagine how much you want your sister there, and Im sorry that things arent really working out the way you planned!! *HUGS*
Post # 6
Honestly, I know how you feel- I was disapointed by some of our no’s, and am having a smaller wedding then expected. But just think, when you the doors to your ceremony open, when you walk in the room all you will feel is love, love from everyone there who loves you 🙂
Post # 7
has your rsvp deadline already passed? your wedding is over a month away, right? maybe there are some more yes rsvps on their way!!
Post # 8
Aw I’m sorry. <3 Mine isn’t a destination wedding, but I live in Florida, so it is for a lot of my family. I’m worried that a lot of my aunts and uncles wont come. Hopefully you’ll have people change their minds and come.