Post # 1
After a quick survey, and a few brief discussions with friends and families, I decided to do all my RSVP’s through my wedding website. Besides saving money on stamps, this made sure of a few things for me:
1. Everyone would be FORCED to visit the website and read the valuable information there;
2. No one could add anything to the RSVP. They could only RSVP for exactly who was on the invitation.
Besides the 5 stragglers who have not officially RSVP’d yet (and I think that number is actually pretty decent) I have managed to avoid ALL RSVP drama. No scribbled on cards. No “1 seat has been reserved in your honor” being scratched out and changed to “2” or “5.” No nothing.
I’m sure there will be attendance drama. Some people will be no-shows. Some random people might show up. But All in all, I’d say the electronic RSVP was a great success.
Anyone else have success with their RSVP’s? How did you manage to avoid the drama? (And of course I love the crazy stories of people who did NOT manage to avoid the drama of crazy friends/family!)
Post # 3
This is a wonderful thread! I think I’ll do this instead.
Originally I was thinking of giving guests two ways to RSVP one online and the second is an RSVP card, but I had always been worried people still wouldn’t go to the website even though I’ll have it plastered on anything to do with the wedding!
I like this idea a lot and will be getting rid of my paper RSVP cards now, and like you said it saves on paper and stamps, and anything to help us save money is loved.
I am mainly worried about my FI’s family they are all word of mouth type of people and like to do things at their own pace. My biggest fear is that they are going to call us up, and say that they’ll come and not tell me who all is coming to the wedding with them….And this would all about a week before my wedding. xD! I am scaring myself now….ANYWAYS!
Thanks for the idea, I love it. <3
Post # 4
So far online has worked great for us too! A couple international relatives couldn’t figure it out, so we just asked them what they wanted to eat and filled it out for them (they just couldn’t understand enough English to read the site, so the same problem could have happened w/ cards!). We still have some stragglers, but it’s not even our RSVP date yet, and we know that those people know how to RSVP, they’re just making sure they can attend 🙂 SO glad we went with the online route!
Post # 5
Great! I am torn between this and regular mail RSVPs. Only because I designed some really cute mail cards. I guess I just need to spend more time designing a card with the online info!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Can you describe how your RSVP system worked?? I’m most interested in knowing how they could only RSVP for who exactly was invited!
Post # 7
I used weddingwire.com for my wedding website and it has an RSVP feature as described by the OP. I decided to go with both paper RSVP and online RSVP as options because I know there’s quite a few people who are friends of my parents or older family members who don’t go online. I am hoping this approach covers all bases.
Post # 8
@elysion: Try weddingwire.com they have free websites and they have an RSVP system where you can make up households and put each person in one household that you have invited for the wedding, so no one can do add-ons.
Post # 9
@elysion: I used projectwedding.com. I set up the guest list, and only I could change it. So if I allowed a guest, then the person RSVP’ing could answer “Yes” or “No” only for them and the guest I invited. I could choose the name of their guest, or leave it so that they could change the name if they wanted to.
Post # 10
@Tangled: Did people have to register or anything?
Post # 11
Some members of my family are so computer illiterate they would probably end up like Zoolander.
Post # 12
Thanks for the input! I have printed my invitations and am doing online RSVP, but I set my website up through a site that does not have that RSVP function. However, I’m thinking perhaps I will link to one of those sites on the RSVP page so that I can use the “limited” guest list function.
We are also giving people a phone number to RSVP as some aren’t good with computers. It is a Google Voice # where we can leave very specific instructions on the voicemail on how to RSVP since that is the only use for the number.
Post # 13
@blueabz: No. They just went to the website, searched for their own name on the RSVP page, and clicked either “yes” or “no.”
Post # 14
Congratulations on finding a way to avoid problems with your RSVPs!
I am thankful that I also managed to avoid any RSVP drama. I did not use any type of electronic RSVP. However, I had very formal invitations with professionally calligraphed inner and outer envelopes. This was extremely helpful in ensuring that guests knew who, specifically, was being invited.