(Closed) RSVP drama is probably about to begin… :-(

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

@MsBlackberry:  That sucks. I think your Fiance and/or Future Mother-In-Law should speak with them. It is so rude to bring uninvited guests, especially when it is so clear who is (and isn’t) invited.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Agreed. Have Fiance and FML talk to them. It’s unfair when friends were cut from the list that they bring uninvited guests. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Who does that? Nineteen and 20-something year old kids who are unfamiliar with wedding etiquette. I’d be filling them in really quickly though, hehe. No kids are going to strong arm me into paying for their new SOs to attend my wedding. But I’m a hard ass;)

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yep, I agree with PPs. Let your Fiance or Future Mother-In-Law handle this one, but I certainly wouldn’t just let it go when you’ve cut friends from the list to accomodate these rude people, and they’re still trying to add on extra! No way.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MsBlackberry:  You would think so, but maybe they didn’t ask her. Either way I’d be putting my foot down on it. It’s your wedding, so things like this are up to you, not your guests.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh, I’m fearing that my cousin will do this. She’s 20 and in a really weird relationship with this kid that no one likes. He’s weird and gross and he isn’t invited.

I’m sorry that your Future Mother-In-Law won’t tell them no, and that your Fiance won’t, either. I’d probably just call them myself and tell them that you cannot accommodate those who weren’t invited.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Your Fiance needs to step up and call them himself and say the invite was for the 2 cousins only, not dates due to space restrictions. I mean there is NO way I would allow that shit to go down when I couldn’t even invite some of MY friends because of space issues.

 

Have him call them now. It’s your and his wedding, not Future Mother-In-Law or Future Father-In-Law so this is on him to do since it’s his family.

 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MsBlackberry:  Definitely have Fiance or Future Mother-In-Law talk to them. How rude. Dont give in to them, they’re just being brats.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Send them a bill for the two additional people, LOL.

 

Seriously, call them up and tell them that your venue is very strict about numbers. Blame it on the fire marshall if you need to.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m sorry! Young people/people who have never been engaged don’t realize the stress and thought that goes into invites and numbers. It’s “no big deal” to them. What’s another couple of people? But they aren’t paying for it or planning it. I completely understand you being upset. I’m sure one day when they get married and someone does it to them they’ll understand how stupid it was of them.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@vorpalette:  +1. if Future Mother-In-Law can’t handle it, just call and tell them you’re so glad that they’ll be able to attend with their mother, but that unfortunately due to budget and space restrictions, you can’t accommodate their dates and hope they will understand.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

You’re not inviting people you want there because your Fiance knew this would happen.  That’s ridiculous.  You really think that 20year old +1 is going to even remember your most important day in 5 years?  

 

I would have my Future Mother-In-Law make the call, with me sitting there, to talk to her sibling and tell them the cousins can not bring +1’s due to the budget and there isn’t room for them, plus everything you outlined in your first post.  

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