Post # 17
What the hell? Since when does a 19 yr old with a relationship that maybe has lasted all of 5 min deserve a +1. Have Future Mother-In-Law call them up and tell them no and have Fiance oversee it. Stay out of it bc you don’t want them to hone in on you as being the person who is making a stink about it.
Post # 18
Some people are just rude! I don’t think it has much to do with age, just the person.
We invited my FI’s aunt and uncle but did not invite their 4 children, who are all in their 40s with children of their own because for various reasons (having never met them in almost 4 1/2 years, among others) my Fiance didn’t want them at our wedding and at the list being at 200, my Fiance wanted to cut somewhere.
I received a voicemail the other day from one of his cousins stating that she was RSVPing to the wedding for her, her spouse and 2 kids. Plus, another of his cousins also RSVPed through facebook.
My Fiance contacted them and explained that due to lack of space and budget they were not included in our guest list and we just couldn’t accommodate them. His brother was the one to convince him because he was ready to let them come. His brother said “put your big boy pants on and deal with it.” lol If he wouldn’t have done it, I would have.
It is you and your FI’s wedding, which you are paying for and you should decide how it goes and who is invited. 🙂 Good luck!
ETA: I would definitely call them back since you had to cut friends because of lack of space!
Post # 19
I would call and say do to space restrictions there is not room for people who were not included on the invitation.
Post # 20
Yeah, I definitely don’t want this to come from me, or appear to be coming from me.
The really crazy part about all this, is that the two kids, at the time of the invitiations being sent out (and most likely now) DID NOT DRIVE. Also, the older cousin has a young son, who is also not invited, but I bet she will try to bring him anyway. He is 2.
Future Mother-In-Law has already informed me that her brother’s young daughter (aged 4) will be coming, despite children not being invited, because FI’s niece is the flower girl, and the family will get upset if she comes and the other girl can’t.
Post # 21
One side of FI’s family is full of rude, selfish, entitled people (mostly, FMIL’s brothers and sisters).
Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law are sweet, sweet people who came from not so great families and rose above it. Future Father-In-Law has almost no contact with his, but Future Mother-In-Law refuses to cut ties, and has helped all of them out of trouble numerous times.
You can believe I was not so happy to basically be told, “sorry, you have to invite all of them to avoid family drama. and if you don’t invite them, they will invite themselves. it’s either that, or elope!” (This came from Fiance himself)
Post # 22
Nip this in the bud NOW. No more talking about who will “probably” be coming or whose kids will “probably” be showing up with their parents. Fiance needs to get on the phone right now and say, “We are so sorry, but due to venue space restrictions we can only accomodate those indicated on the invitation. We hope you can join us on our special day.”
Don’t let this fester bc they will feel more bold about their rudeness as time passes. They have no say so about who should be going to the wedding. Your wedding. Your dollar. Take care of it pronto. If they bow out, reply with a “you will be missed” and invite your friends who you had to cut from the list earlier.
Post # 23
It will only turn into a big drama if you and your Fiance and his mom let it. Tell them no AND THAT IS IT. Don’t engage in bickering or arguments. Let them piss on themselves for not being able to tell you and your Fiance what to do. It’s YOUR wedding. Be a bitch if you have to (but not right away).
Post # 24