(Closed) RSVP due date for a destination wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hi! I don’t think most people will RSVP 6-8 months in advance. I put mine almost 2 months in advance but kept checking with them about reservations and booking. Many of our guests waited until the last minute and I think that is pretty common (except for parents/siblings/etc).

Post # 4
23 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

My sweetie and I are sending our Save the Dates one year in advance.  Our invitations will go out 7 months before the wedding date with an RSVP deadline of 6 weeks later so around 5.5 months before the wedding. 

We are renting a villa in Italy for a week for our family and friends.  We have to have our RSVP date so far ahead of time because they are not only securing their place at our wedding, but also their room at the villa.  If we have more RSVP’s than we expect, it still gives us time to rent the guest house on the property for overflow.  I don’t believe it’s much of an inconvenience for them because we’re paying for their lodging. 

We look at it this way, there are not many people who can just up and go to Europe without significant notice beforehand.  If they haven’t started planning and purchasing 5 months ahead of time they’re probably not serious about coming. I know it sounds super early but chances are everyone you are inviting already knows they should be preparing and will expect it.  


Post # 5
2121 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

our rsvp date is 6 weeks before the wedding BUT 80% of the guests are coming from mexico. if i had more international guests i might make it 3-4 months.

honestly, if you ask people to rsvp 8 months in advance…youll get a lot of people saying yes then backing out last minute. or saying no, when they could have gone if theyd had the opportunity to book later

Post # 6
1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Destination Wedding is next June. We organized a group rate but in order to get it you have to put a deposit down by the end of this September. We sent out our invites and link to our wedding website mid July. So I’ll know some RSVPs by the end of next month. For anyone who wanted to book on their own we told them we need to know by April 1st.

Post # 7
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@zoecn:  we are sending out invites in 2 weeks for an april Destination Wedding. the rsvp date will be nov 15th and i am allowing for some replies to be a month or so late. we have to pay in full for all our guests 3 months out.

Post # 8
1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

6-8 months is WAY too early for an RSVP.  Like, crazy early.  

Send out STDs with accomodation information, then send your invitations out 3 months out, 2 month RSVP at the most.

Post # 9
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The RSVP date should reflect your vendor deadlines, e.g., catering headcount.  You should include some buffer to allow you to follow up with guests who miss the deadline.

As pp mentioned you should send a comprehensive save the date with travel information once it’s available.  (Still, don’t do that with more than 6-12 months’ notice.)

It’s your guests’ responsibility to then plan accordingly.  Trying to lock them in early with a long term RSVP is neither considerate nor realistic.

Post # 10
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We are having a Destination Wedding & our RSVP deadline is in the middle of September for an early December 2012 wedding.

Post # 12
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@zoecn:  you can choose, if you want to put it 4 or 5 months thats up to you.  We did 5 months as it will be around christmas and people will be busy and going away so wanted them to rsvp before the crazy time. 

Post # 13
9986 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Personally, I think sending an invitation 8-10 months out is insane.  I’ll likely RSVP yes at the time, and then evaluate it as it gets closer, which means I may back out.  Seriously, I don’t know what I’m doing in 10 months, and things change.

You should send Save the Dates that early, with booking information included, but not send the formal invitations until 2-3 months prior.  That way, your guests can book if they want, but you aren’t going to get into the hazy area of people changing their minds as much as you would otherwise.

Post # 14
1047 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Are you really getting married in July of 2014 but sending out invites in April of 2013?  If so, I would think that would be WAY too early for your guests to begin making reservations.  I’m not 100% sure but I don’t think you can book airfare but 6 months out….at least my parents couldn’t to come visit me in Europe. 

I had a Destination Wedding and everyone knew via our website all the details before the invites went out.  We wanted people to be prepared but we still had our family making reservations 2 weeks before the wedding and yes, it was extremely stressful having them wait that long when they had over 6 months notice.

I’d defintitely send out STDs a year in advance and if you can do a wedding website, put up all the info on there and then follow with the invites later.  That way people can plan for taking off of work, budget wise, etc.

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