(Closed) RSVP due date is usually 8 wks before wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum

I thought you weren’t supposed to even send the invitations out until 8 weeks before…

Post # 4
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA

We didn’t send our invitations until 7 or 8 weeks before our wedding…. our reply date was just short of 3 weeks before the wedding… that gave us a few days to track down any stragglers, and have a final count to our venue a week in advance.

I would see when your venue needs a final count (and factor in any last-minute projects like place cards, favors, etc. that you’ll need time to make for each attending guest) and work backwards from there!

Post # 5
2 posts
  • Wedding: February 2010

I have recently researched this a lot, and it seems we should mail our invitations 8 weeks before the wedding, reply date should be 3 weeks prior. This gives them 5 weeks to respond, and you a week or two to call them if they’re slacking on sending it back!

Post # 6
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I sent mine out 10 weeks early and was advised for people to RSVP by May 1 for a mid June wedding. It was a really dumb idea and I wish I’d not listened to that advice! But, people are still RSVPing so I’m not too worried about it. I should have made it June 1! I figured "the earlier the better" but people don’t follow that logic

Post # 7
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We will be sending out our invites 10 – 11 weeks prior to the wedding because the counts have to be in almost a month prior to the wedding so we wanted to make sure we had enough time get the stragglers. Since the guest list is at 279, we definitely needed a lot of time. Many in my family tend to not RSVP  because it is assumed that they are attending… Not this time! We will be putting our foot down on that one

Post # 8
497 posts
Helper bee

Basically count back a week from the day your final number is due the caterer.  Add a couple of days for stragglers and voila…you have an RSVP date.  That’s what we do in corporate events…if you’re wondering why I have determined myself an expert on this 🙂

Post # 9
88 posts
Worker bee

our wedding planner has us sending out invites 10 weeks ahead of time (because we have a ton of out of town guests) and getting rsvps back 4 weeks later (or 6 weeks before the big day). 

Post # 10
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We sent out our invitations 9 weeks before the wedding and had an RSVP date 4 weeks before the wedding.  Our RSVP date was this past Saturday, and we still have about 1/3 of our guests who have not responded.  I’m glad we have 2 weeks to track people down before our final headcount is due to our caterer.

Post # 11
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Egads, I guess I better get busy! I haven’t even sent out the invitations yet and the wedding Aug. 7th. Yikes!

Post # 12
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

RoddyBride09: I agree with everything you said!!

My family is the same way and I want to make sure I have plenty of time to call people and ask them if they are coming or not.

My due date is Aug. 1st for Sept. 5 wedding!!

Post # 13
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Jewel Box in Forest Park and Windows on Washington

Really depends on where your guests are coming from (mostly local or out of town) and when your final count is due to your caterer.  We’ll probably send ours out about 10 or so weeks prior, as we have several out of town guests and have the RSVP date at about 3-4 weeks prior.  Our counts are only due a week before.

Post # 14
119 posts
Blushing bee

Our RSVP date is about 8 weeks before, but we are having a destination wedding, so that factored in to the equation. We sent our invitations very, very early, to give people time to make travel arrangements.

Post # 15
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think it’s like 2 weeks.

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