(Closed) RSVP envelope name?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I just put my name.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I put Kurt and Lindsey, no last name.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I put the “The Future Mr. and Mrs. ____”. We thought it would be a cute way to get around putting both our names on two lines!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I am just putting our first names. We live together. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah, I think ours will be addressed to just our first names.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m doing “my firstname lastname & fiance’s firstname lastname” but I’m sure it’s not proper etiquette.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We’re doing both of our first names, and it’s going to be put on the envelopes via adorable stamp I bought off Etsy. I’m pretty sure it breaks all kinds of etiquette rules, but we own a house together so there’s no hiding from the relatives that we’re living in sin anymore :P.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

The hosts’ name goes on the RSVP envelope. Traditionally, that would be your parents, but today many couples host their own weddings. You should be consistent with the invitation, though. Does it say Mr. and Mrs. Parents request…? or Bride and Groom? If it’s the tow of you, Since you live together, you should put Ms. BrideFirst Last on the top line and then below that Mr. GroomFirst Last. Or, you could put just yours.

Post # 11
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Newbee

We put both our first names- no surnames 🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I just have my name on it. My Fiance was not happy about it either… :/ But, when I looked over the proofs for the invites I guess I didn’t realize anything was wrong…

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We also put both of our first names.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We also only used our first names.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

In the English-speaking world outside of the United States, replies to invitations should be addressed to your hostess (unless the r.s.v.p. line on the invitation directs them elsewhere, such as to the hostess’s social secretry). In the United States, they should be addressed to the hostess if she is unmarried, or to the hostess and her husband (husband’s name first) if she is married

Since you are not yet married, they should be addressed to you whether you are in the United States or not.

Actually, Etiquette is having a bit of a nervous breakdown over this since you and your fiance are living together as a couple, and Etiquette is therefore assuming that you are “secretly married” (or “married through cohabitation, by habit and repute”, a lovely turn of phrase from traditional Scottish common law) which makes it perfectly acceptable for guests to send mail jointly to you and your husband, named jointly on the envelope. But it’s the R.s.v.p. to your wedding for heaven’s sake! People who are already married don’t have weddings. So show some compassion to poor flummoxed old Etiquette — and use your own name alone.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I’m bad. I wanted a stamp with our soon to be shared last name so I wouldn’t have to buy a fancy new one when we get married, so I got a custom one off etsy with FI’s name and our shared address (we live together currently)! It just says “G” then what will be our last name and address.

Probably bad etiquette wise, but how do people know he’s not hosting?! haha

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