(Closed) RSVP Etiquette

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Member
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Where does it say the deadline and the hotel mention? Is it all on the RSVP card? I think your only option would be to print new cards. Otherwise it’s going to be pretty evident that their invite was an afterthought.

Post # 3
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3043 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

MSUbee: I think saying “we can’t wait to get your RSVP back” sounds too pushy. I would say something more along the lines of “I can’t wait to see you at the wedding” or “I hope we’ll see you again at the wedding” which opens the door for them to tell you that they won’t be able to make it or something.

B Listing is rude so I can see why your friends would be offended and I find it more offensive to ignore the fact that you KNOW they would be offended and try to hide it from them instead. Accept your initial invite list for what it is and don’t invite lesser friends after the fact.

Post # 4
Member
3266 posts
Sugar bee

You picked the deadline, if you wanted to know earlier you should have had an earlier date.  It is rude to remind people of a deadline that hasn’t yet passed.  But definitely feel free to follow up with them after the deadline. 

Your only option is to print new cards if you don’t want people to know they are B-listed.  They dont’ have to be fancy or the same as the originals, just something with a correct date will be fine.

Post # 5
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3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

MSUbee:  The correct method of reminding someone to RSVP is to say “I wanted to make sure you had received your invitation.  Has it arrived yet?”

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