(Closed) RSVP Etiquette Help Needed!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

A lot of bees put the phrase “  2  seats have been reserved in your honor” (fill in the # of, course) on the RSVP cards to definitively tell guests how many people in the party are invited. I am not saying it always works (in fact, you will find stories about that on here as well), but I think that’s about as clear as you can get without basically saying “only you, stupid!”

It might be considered premature by putting that on the Save-The-Date Cards, but you gotta do what you gotta do to get the point across.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Same as PP – put the number of seats reserved in their honor. If you get calls or complaints, politely tell them that their is a max capacity on your venue (true or not) and you are not able to invite so-and-so.

Good luck! From reading on here (and my own experience) people like to invite themselves…..

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My FI’s family is just like this and I followed PPs suggestions – our RSVPS card read

We have reserved __ seats in your honor.

__ out of __ will attend.

 

Then we filled in the first and last blank with the number invited.

Post # 6
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with the PPs, but also be sure to fill your Future Mother-In-Law in on this and she can help spread the word.  That way if uncles or cousins have questions they can go to her and she can explain that the venue is too small for everyone.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@baliahi1029: I agree with this suggestion, just be aware that you may get questions or extras, and you’ll have to gently explain that you don’t have room for extras.

I know how you feel, Fiance and I are inviting our aunts, uncles and 1st cousins (not 2nd though) and between the two of us we have 130 (not counting +1s!). We’re just inviting everyone though, but I envy the cost cutting you’ll do without the huge guest list!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Farmers Market Bride: I paid money to have my RSVP cards change because I too got this suggestion after they were printed, and I totally think it was worth the headache I would of dealth with otherwise. I don’t see the note going over well, you’ll get a million calls about it.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Farmers Market Bride: If the STD is in an envelope (ours were postcards), maybe you could insert a small note with the same information. I know everyone loves Vista Print, but I used 123print.com for all our stationery and made business cards into an insert that had our wedding website, contact info, etc on it, and they turned out great. I am sure you could find one to match your invites, and they are like under $10 for a hundred if I remember right. Fast turn around too.

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