(Closed) RSVP Etiquette (little bit of a vent)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
9162 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

The ettiquette is that a guest RSVP’s- it doesn’t state how they should do it. What thoughtful guests you have that they have RSVP’d prior to the cut off date Undecided

Post # 18
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Woodstock:  agreed. we have enough to keep track of and dont need to keep track of who rsvps through here or there. i would be annoyed too. its not that hard to send out a pre-stamped and addressed envelope.

Post # 19
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Honestly, brides (usually) go through SO MUCH TROUBLE to follow rules of “etiquette”, or at least I have, because I don’t want to go down in history as a tacky bride. I really don’t think its that much to ask to want your guests to do the same. I mean seriously, if Martha Stewart is going to keep insisting that we need to put stamps on our return envelopes, then brides need to ban together and insist that they be put in the mail!

You can still be thankful you got a reply (this should be evident when you say “thanks for the response, but…”), but I think its totally reasonable to ask that they send the card, because it really does make it easier to keep track of! And if anyone calls you crazy, tell them you aren’t yet but they’ll probably see bridezilla soon if the problem’s not addressed (no pun intended, I promise).

Post # 20
25 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would be annoyed also. Recently while on the way to another close friend’s wedding, one of Fiance and I’s close friend (who was a groomsman in the wedding we were on the way to) told me that he’d just texted to say he was coming and never sent his RSVP card. I told him if he was too lazy to send an already addressed and stamped RSVP, not to bother coming to my wedding (I was joking, but still, my point was it’s annoying not to send them in!)

Post # 21
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Date Twin!!  Glad you posted this, I’m in the exact same situation as you!  Our friends are being very lazy with mailing back the little pre-paid stamped RSVP envelopes!  Our deadline is July 11 and 1/2 of my wedding party haven’t officially RSVP’d back hahaha..  We are in our 20’s too..

We have been getting text messages about it mostly saying “great I’ll be there looking forward to it!”  I am trying to tell FH to ask them to send that little thing in the mail so I know it’s official and can keep track of it.  I am starting to get annoyed for sure.  I hope it will pick up quickly since I don’t want to have to phone everyone to double check that they are coming..

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