Post # 1
So a while back I went to a wedding that my daughter was a flower girl in. I lived with my mother at the time and she was the one to always get the mail. One day I look and see a invitation on her reminder board in her room. So I grab it and ask her when it came since she didn’t mention it to me. She told me like 2 weeks ago! It was addressed to me, and even though I gave her permission to open any mail of mine I expect to be told about things like this. So she then tells me she already RSVPed. She RSVPed 4. I was like ‘huh?’ because there is only my daughter and me going. Turns out she invited herself and a plus one too! She didn’t even have any guy to bring but didn’t want to go alone so she figured she’d find a guy by then. But like I said she wasn’t even invited! I thought it was funny she included a plus one for her and didn’t even think about one for me. I actually met Fiance the week before that wedding…
So WWYD as the bride if you found out someone did that. Also WWYD if your family member did that and you were the one invited.
Post # 3
@MommaMe020911: As the bride, I would call the invited guest and politely let them know we couldn’t accomodate more than the 2 invited. If I were you in that situation, I would immediately call the bride and apologize profusely and let her know that only you and your daughter were coming. And then I would have a serious talk with your mother.
Post # 4
Lol, that seems kinda rude, but sounds like your mother didn’t mean it to be like that. As the family member, I would contact the Bride/Groom and tell them what happened. If they are like.. “oh, no big deal! The more the merrier!” then no harm done. If they are on a tight budget, you could tell them you’d like to change your RSVP to 2, and break the news to your mother. As the bride, in my case it depends on how many people RSVP’ed yes, but I think as a general rule most brides have a certain number planned for, and if we accepted everyone’s random plus ones (or self invites) it would get out of control!
Post # 5
@Moose1209: I’d do exactly what you said! Exactly. I’m nervous enough that someone will take it upon themselves to invite a plus 1 let alone a plus 2!
Post # 6
I dont know about you but @ 100 dollars a plate I’d be pretty peeved if your mom (who I didn’t invite in the first place) just FOUND a date in the meantime. As the bride I would call you up and explain we cannot accomodate the extra people. As the person who made the mistake I would definetly call the bride up and apologize because this is an awkward situation for them too….they maybe wondering whether or not to just let it slide.
Post # 7
Omg I’d be mortified! I would immediately call the bride and tell her to knock two off the list and explain the situation to her. No way I’d bring my mother and her conjured up date to a dinner worth $100 PP, give or take.
Post # 8
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
I would be so embarassed! Call the bride and explain to her the situation and let your mom down! If the bride says that it is ok.. then I guess your mom gets away with this one! By The Way my daughter goes to school in plantation 😀
Post # 9
Boundaries have been crossed here…in many ways.
As the bride, I’d be trying to figure out WTH I was going to say to you…and I’d be really upset that you (because she’s going to think that you did this, not your mom) just added 2 extra people to your invite. So, given that the error was your mother’s, but it was your invite, it’s on you to pre-emptively call this poor woman and tell her your mom completely overstepped and you’re mortified. Apologize profusely.
If it were my family member, I would be furious because a) she opened your mail, b) she didn’t tell you about it, c) she rudely RSVP’d for herself and a date AND you…when she didn’t even know that you could go, and d) put you in the position where you had to apologize for her lack of manners.
ETA: If I were that bride, I’d be on the phone as soon as I figured out how to politely tell you that your mom and date were not on the list of guests. I would probably think that your mom was a bit nuts, to be honest…and I’d think twice about sending mail to your house. lol
Post # 10
Wow, how long ago was this? Did you already attend the wedding or if it hasn’t happened yet could you call the bride and apologise?